The Journey - Preteen ... does that mean there is something worse????

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Aug. 23, 2007

Preteen ... does that mean there is something worse????

    I have always heard that the teenager years were the hardest ... but I don't see how I am going to make it through the preteen years to get to them. My 11 yr old dd is hands down the most mind boggling creature I have ever met. She can (and often does) switch from sweet, bubbling-over with joy, loves the world and everyone in it to paranoid, angry and down-right spiteful in the blink of an eye.
    I keep thinking that if maybe I figure out the right words to say, I will get through to her and her eyes will be opened to the fact that she is irrational - and it is NOT that "the world hates her," as she has been known to say on occasion.
    I go back and forth on whether homeschooling her during these years helps or hurts. Would she be better off if she didn't see me all the time? Am I wasting my breath, trying to instill a sense of integrity and honor to a preteen?
    I find myself at a loss more times than not. What do I say to this kid? Does she really truly think I don't love her sometimes?
    Anyway, if anyone has any words of advice, I welcome them! Or if anyone just wants to commiserate .....I'm all ears!

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Aug. 30, 2007 - don't stop a good thing

Posted by chelle

You have such a wonderful mission statement which you shared with me about your goal with homeschooling. You are heading in the right directions with your girls from what I have seen and heard. You are shaping their hearts with all the character qualities that you instill in them each day. Now, your oldest is going through emotional times but she gets to share her frustration and the resolution of that with you instead of another preteen who wouldn't be able to work through those emotions. The caring heart I have seen out of your oldest speaks strongly of Godly character you are teaching her. I admire your mission and glean much from your ideas. Press on friend!

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Sep. 4, 2007 - Untitled Comment

Posted by Lyric

I think that the best thing you could possibly do for her is for you to be there. I think I was like that as a preteen, and all I was after was for Mom, Dad, anybody at all, to give me a hug and say they love me. Of course, that might not be the case for her. I sure hope you find something that works! :-)

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