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• Oct. 28, 2007 - Baby Planning part #1

I am so caught up in this issue right now.

I am gonna post random thoughts here and try to formulate them into well written articles in the future.

I am thinking someday I would like to have a web site dedicated to birthing including issues like; the sanctity of life, being quiverful, raising a large family, and homeschooling.

But most of all birthing options are really on my mind now.

In light of the fact that we are quiverful minded we may have several more children.

I want and need to be cared for in a safe environment. My baby needs that, my husband needs that assurance! I need to know that my other children are safe and fairly happy as well.

I am not a particularly activist oriented person.

I believe especially as a Christian 'PRAYER' is what the Lord expects first and foremost out of me.

The simple surrender to Him trusting He can and will protect our family and guide and direct our family is what brings peace.

What does He think about these issues surrounding birthing options in the world today? In my state?

Though the Bible does not tell us I rather believe Jesus was born unassisted. Often times stories of the nativity show the inn keepers wife having helped Mary... I don't know if that is realistic. Was not the Inn totally over run with people? Would she not have been overwhelmed with numerous duties? If she or another woman did assist was that not a blessing... God's will?

Who can say for sure if she was assisted; it is a mystery?

We can be sure that however Jesus was helped into this world the Father was in complete control of it.

Can I be that sure that my son or daughter will be protected in that way?

Yes, I can.

I have labored and birthed in and out of hospital now. Having a good mix of experiences.

If there is one thing that I have concluded it is not *where* you are birthing it is *how* you are birthing that is the *real* factor in how the overall experience is effected.

This may sound like I am going in circles here... the unfortunate thing is often times birthing in hospital effects the *how* you are birthing negatively more so than any other factor.

Mostly because the type of mindset and restrictions the staff has are negative.

I prefer a home birth I would however take help and care at the level I needed at the moment from one I could trust .

For now if I can not trust that a person is going to be helping... then I would rather go it alone.

Just me and my God.

Now one can say "Well you just personally have a trust issue, Jacinda. Maybe you need to work on that!"

No in actuality I am a VERY trusting person. When I was younger I was very gullible.

Today I find myself to be more balanced.

I have coined a new phrase...

We are not Bitter We are Wiser

I hope I can have more time to write.

• Oct. 29, 2007 - Untitled Comment

Posted by stillearning

I can totally see what you're saying.

The reason we have chose to go the birthing center route (which is not a popular route aside from people who are natural minded.) Was that we almost lost our first child from me being induced. Her heart rate was dangerously low and I couldn't push her out because I was so numb from the epidural. She was in a bad position and had to be pulled out with a vacuum extractor and broke her collar bone. I swore I wouldn't go that route again! I will admit that drugs are tempting because I dread labor. I love everything else about the baby but labor is one thing I just don't enjoy. So I can sympathize with other women because I have been there but really it can't be healthy for us or our babies to go through all of these medical interventions. Not a one is without serious risks.

Getting an epidural seems like such a simple thing but it's not is it? I know some women have no problems but many of those women only have 1-2 children and the odds of C-section in a hospital setting are 1 in 4 last time I looked. Many women who have an epidural or who are induced go on to having a c-section if they have enough children. I almost had to have one with our first child. I knew that God was telling me something after that. I know that can still happen and I am thankful for medical intervention when absolutely necessary but it's so often abused.

Going natural reduces so many risks and there are studies that say you bond better with your baby with no drugs. That was certainly true for me with baby #2, 3, and 4!!!I In my opinion pain is the reason. There is a reason we have pain in child birth and I think we bond more with the baby? Just like trials make us stronger :)

God bless you in your search for information. Pass it on! :)

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• Oct. 29, 2007 - Thank You Pam

Posted by 5lilpeppers

Those insights are very good and true to my experience.

I too had interventions and complications during my first pregnancy and labor/ delivery.

I almost sectioned... too!

I am eternally thankful the Lord gave me a few more ounces of strength to go on in a less than peaceful labor to birth ******lly.

I think another sad thing about trying to share with others is that too often others get defensive and assume you are saying they are a ad mom or whatever if they have sectioned.
I actually can empathize with both ends of the spectrum and I think you can too.

That in itself makes us very possibly more able to 'share' in a balanced way with others.

I found myself coining a new phrase yesterday something liek this.

" We are not bitter We are Wiser "

I am not a medical professional basher regardless of my experiences? We are however more informed and make wiser choices as to whom we put our trust in after having had various experiences!

I think this makes me more approachable for real discussions on the topic.

Yes, I will continue to pass on anything new I learn.

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• Oct. 30, 2007 - Untitled Comment

Posted by stillearning

I agree, I hope that my comment didn't come across as harsh. I agree we need to be approachable and understanding towards others. I think that is true for any issue as a Christian.

I would never think badly of someone who had a c-section. But I think we would all agree that if they can be prevented that is ideal? :) I think it's easier to talk in person over issues like this because we can take tone and conversation into perspective? Also it's easier to gauge when it's appropriate to bring up the topic! :) I would certainly never talk to a mom who just went through a c-section about how so many Dr's do them unnecessarily. ;) I am sure you are probably the same way!

God Bless!

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