I hate days where the clock moves extra quickly and the kids move extra slowly. It drives me BONKERS. Today we didn't start school until 11 AM. And by that time I am so out of my mind mad at the kids that I don't want to do school with them. But I make myself, because if I don't, they win. They will not be watching tv today or playing any games. They have not earned it. What they have earned is extra work. You wanna waste my time? Fine, I'll waste yours. No problem. Let's double your school work. Have some extra chores. ARG.
So now I need some help. I would like to NOT get to this stage. Here is what is supposed to happen in the morning. Boys are to be up and dressed and have their upstairs chores done and be down stairs at 8 AM. D usually has no problem with that. N usually doesn't have anything done. He rarely does what he is supposed to. Then when they come downstairs they are to do their downstais chores, eat and get out their school work. Everyday, I have to remind them. Every. Single. Day. I used to have a rule that if you didn't eat by 9 then you didn't eat. I guess I should reinstate that rule. N always has to be proded to do his chores. I have to be with him every step of the way or he gets lost somewhere. And he is a ticking time bomb. Anything can set him off and then we have a whole other problem to deal with. And now Princess C has to be told over and over to get dressed. She also needs me with her every step. But, in case you haven't noticed, there's only one me. (Thankfully, D changes Toddler B every morning. I can't stomach the stench, so he was forced into that duty.) D moves very slowly. He is either sticking his nose were it doesn't belong, bossing someone around, or just plain jabbering. And so with four kids running in four different directions, by the time we clean up from breakfast, it's lunch time! And I'm frustrated!!! Today, the boys were trying to swap chores with each other. So that's what was taking some of the time. I think we really need to bring N's bedroom downstairs by us but we really can't figure out how to do that. Princess C needs to be by us (she wakes up every night) and so does Toddler B. (If I don't hear him yelling for me in the morning, I'll never wake up). That makes three kids stuffed into one room. So any suggestions on how to make my morning run smoother?
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Nov. 6, 2007 - Untitled Comment
Have you ever tried a chart of things for each child to do in the morning? Instead of you coaxing them on. Make it their responsibility to refer to the chart and do what they need to do. For those who can read, write out the items, for those who can't, draw pictures or cut them from magazines and catalogs.
For the child who does what they are supposed to do, there are rewards...extra game time, tokens towards a special thing they want to buy, whatever. For those that don't follow through there are consequences. Go ahead and start school at 9. Whatever they haven't done, they have to do later while the ones who did their work are playing.
Hope that helps some.
Melissa
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