Jun. 7, 2008 - Questioning myself
I used to belong to this homeschool group. I nolonger DO. PTL, they really upset me and since I didn';t know hardly anyone on it, it should have been a big deal, but I am still really hurt.
So here is my blog on the whole thing. I went to a rosary ralley where I sat next to this really rude person who yelled at my kids and ruined the whole experience for me. So when they asked how everyone did, I told them what happened. The result.
I got a few very very rude emails, that told me I was a terrible Mother, and if I punished my kids more and dressed perfectly and dressed my kids better I would neber recieve a rude comment on my family size or anything. I was told I was a heritic and that I would be doomed to hell for commeting a Mortal Sin, bashing the church for saying something negative about a church function. SERIOUSLY, none of these people knew me at all, had never met me and didn't even know how many children I had or their ages.
I got coments about keeping house, and it kept going back to spank spank spank. Seriously people spanking your kids doesn't make them perfect they are still kids. And beating my kids surely isn't going to help.
So basicly if I dress my kids perfectly, carry a paddle at all times dress perfectly and keep a perfect house noone will ever make a comment about family size or ever be rude to me. WOW! Really, can I fall out of my seat in hystarical laughter? Because nothing I do will ever be good enough for everybody. Not because I am this terrible person that is just life, PERIOD, that is how life is. And any normal sane homeschooling Mom knows this, I mean spanking is a debate, imunizations, child birth, and even what type of bread you eat can cause issues with some moms.lol
But this was just rude. I am not used to being told I was going to burn in hell, but for some reason the week before I was told I was awful for using Charlotte Mason, a few months before that, I was told the websters dictionary should be burned and the weekend before my post I was told I was a mortal sinner because all my friends aren't Catholic and a good friend is Jewish.
So I left the group of nuts. Not all of them just to mnay for my taste.lol
but now I am letting these Crazy homeschoolers get to me, BIG time. AndI promise to make it stop now.
No mykids aren' perfect, and you know what I do not care. Because they are children and noone is perfect. But they aren't awful either.
Yes my kids are a bit hyper, one I have 3 boys 8, 5, and 3. And two they are HEALTHY! theyhave energy and like to explore and climb trees and be boys. I am proud of the fact my children have lots of energy and are healthy and even hypey and very smart. I would rather that than sickly quiet children who just sit there.
Nope my house is not perfect! Who's house is perfect? My laundry is normally caught up, dishes are normally all done. the beds get made most mornings and I do clean my home. My house does not look like it belongs in a magazine and I doubt it ever will and that is OK because it is a real house I live in adn can explore and I am to busy enjoying life to worry about decorating. And yes I amnot super organized WHO CARES! I don't.
nope my marriage isn't perfect, but it is mine, my dh and I do fight like cats and dogs at times, but you know what that is marriage, adn we are always together, when you live with someone and you are constantly together you are going to fight. And frankly it is noones buisness.
Yes my kids are mouthy. they don't cuss but they have no problem giving there opinion. And I am ok with that. If you don't like it it is a good thing they aren't your kids. I want to know what my kids think and feel adn why. they should be allowed to express themselves.
And yes sometimes I do something stupied, wow I am a humanbeing and once again this is ok, that is sort of the whole point of life, to learn and grow and not be perfect.
And yes there are times I have things on my shirt and my kids do to, wow we eat, it is amazing we actually cook prepare and eat food and real food that can be a little messy. And yes so does my baby who can wipe her food on me when she is done because there are times I miss some when wiping her down. This is because I wear and carry my babies most of the time. I guess if you live in a world of fastfood and processed foods you don't experience messes, because well french fries and hamburgers aren't messy, and if you don't wear your babies are carry them around all day, you don't get things rubbed on your shirt. And I stay home with my family everyday so I get messy being around kids all day.lol And frankly I have a very healthy happy loving baby and I am very attached to her and would rather have a dirty shirt and a Savannah than be dressed to the nines and no savannah.
So because I am a natural mother and spend lots of time with my kids, I am human, my kids are human intelligent and healthy and we are on a good diet, that makes me a bad mom?lol Because I don't go to the club with my girlfriends and have a night off I am weird and don't wear designer clothes I am also a bad mom.
SERIOUSLY I think I am the good mom! my sloppy clothes, messy home on a normal day, my sloppy kids, and the fact I am not perfect makes me the best mom in the whole wide world. And if you don't like me, well so what. I am not that worried about it, I didn't worry about it when I was a kid or a teen why would I be freaked now?
And frankly my kids look nice when the time calls for it, we are not sloppy for church, or family pictures or events with lots of people. I try to keep everyone clean and neat. But well they are kids and I am human. I guess I could be like society and work to buy the designer clothes, have my kids in daycare and have a nanny.
The worst part of the whole ordeal 2 of the very rude comments came from homeschoolers that have a nanny both parents workfull time and they live in a minimansion and have a cleaning lady. And I got to thinking if I was rich, with a cleaning lady, nanny my house would be spotless 24-7 also and my kids would be dressed perfectly because I could afford it. But considering I am normal, in a tiny home and we can't afford new clothes constantly.lol YEP not going to happen.lol
I mean a nanny alone but then I would be having someone else raise my kids and I would not be experiencing all I do everyday. NOPE not for me.lol
And even if I could afford it I doubt I would ever buy designer clothes. They are just not me. I am a jeans and tanktop type of girl.lol
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