Turning Our Hearts To Home

Jun. 12, 2009

Women can have it all!

I hate, hate, hate feminists talking about how we can have it all! We can work full time and be a great mother! It's quality time right? Who cares how little you actually see them. I just read an article about how proud this woman was that she works full time and refused to give up her goals for motherhood. You know what, we can work and have children. We can have babies and drop them off in daycare. It's easy, wake up in the morning, dress and feed them, drop them off at day care, pick 'em up, make them dinner and pop them into bed. But what about the kids? Is what's best for them. I've heard people say they were glad thier mom stayed home with them. But I've never head anyone say they were glad they spent thier infancy and preschool years in daycare. I never understood having children if you didn't want to be around them. How do you develop a relationship when you only see them an hour or two a day? That's part of the reason I HS. I can't imagine my kids coming home in time to have dinner, doing homework all night and then going to bed. I want my kids around. But back to the original topic. I hate it when feminists try to make it seem like staying home with your kids is a demeaning job. Like you have to give up something precious if you choose to stay home and raise your own kids, see their first smiles, words and steps for yourselves. I'm proud to be home with my kids. I just had a verse come to me. Where your treasure is, so is your heart. I treasure my children. I don't care how much you offer me to leave my children or send them away each day. It wouldn't be enough. They are my babies. God gave them to me to take care of. Not pay someone else to raise. Sorry, feeling a little venty tonight.

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Jun. 12, 2009 - Untitled Comment

Posted by salsaandtea

Amen!

This is a huge pet peeve of mine!

We can "have it all" except what God intended. We can "have it all" except what we were designed for.

What make me the most upset is when *I'm* told that I'm insane for already having exactly what I want ... a wonderful husband, a growing family, and most importantly a providential God that makes it all happen.

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Jun. 14, 2009 - Untitled Comment

Posted by 2boysmom

Awesome! And Amen! There is no such thing as doing it all. I had picked up the latest issue of Simple Life for our vacation. It's not something I normally read, but the cover caught my eye because it had to do with organizing. Anyway, there was an article in there about women who have lost their jobs and how it's affecting their lives. I was so disgusted with this one women who said that she would go for days without seeing her child - due to her job! And it wasn't an out-of-town job; just a regular office job!

I'm with you - why have children?
And what bugs me just as much, are the stay at home moms, with kids in public school, that whine when their kids have spring break or summer break, and they have to entertain them. When I hear someone say "Oh, I can't wait for school to start", it makes me so mad! They can't even handle a week of giving up their own agendas.
Like you, I treasure the time with my kids. Do I ever need a break? Yes. But the times I wouldn't trade for anything are when it's 10am and my teen son and I are standing in the kitchen talking. Not about math or english or anything academic, but about life. Now, that's priceless.

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Jun. 18, 2009 - Untitled Comment

Posted by fruitbuns

true. they think we are missing out. It is them missing out!

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Jun. 20, 2009 - Working Moms

Posted by carlsonfamily

I am moved by your post. I'll try to keep this brief. But I have been that woman who had two kids, worked full time and took my kids to daycare, and only spent 2-6 hours a day with them and dread spending breaks/summers. I look back now and wonder how did I do this?? I did it because my heart was not right with God. Over the last two years, God has moved in such a BIG way that I am now not only a SAHM, but I just pulled my 7 and 10 year old from public school and will be HS next year! I'm doing this because it is what God wants for our family. I now see both sides of the fence and its not greener over there! I just had to share....all we can do is pray for those women and that their hearts would be aligned with God's. Thank you for your post!!

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