Dec. 19, 2007 - 10 Things Families with Food Allergies Want You to Know!
Severe food allergies require a dramatic change in lifestyle, but unless these allergies have affected your immediate family, you have no idea of what goes on behind the scenes to keep these children safe. This holiday season, we'd love to spend time with you, so we need your help. With no rule book or etiquette guide, we don't always know how to ask for that help. If you really want to know what will make our season bright, here are:
10 Things Families with Allergies Would Like You to Know!.
- Be careful with your kisses! If you've just eaten anything that our child is allergic to, we'd prefer that you kiss her on the top of her head or give her a hug or an "air kiss". This is what we do! Sound extreme? We know, and that's why we feel so funny about asking you. But trust us when we tell you that the only thing worse than seeing your child suffer an allergic reaction is knowing that you have caused that reaction.
- We'd love you to wash your hands. We don't want to ask. But we don't know what you've eaten or touched and we really don't want to risk it. We know it sounds crazy but our child has reacted to "just touching" things he is allergic to.
- Use care with your baby's foods and bottles. We love your children and know that they need to eat a variety of foods. However, those foods and the milk or soy formula that they drink can cause allergic reactions in our child. Please don't allow your toddler to walk around with a bag of cookies, goldfish or cereal while we're together. One dropped piece could cause a problem for a child with severe food allergies.
- Please, watch your pets and their food. Many pet foods and treats contain allergens including milk, fish and peanut, and an innocent lick can cause a reaction in allergic children.
- Please don't feed our child. Raising a child with food allergies is a whole new way of life. Allergy Moms and Dads can't possibly expect others to keep in mind all of the nuances of where and how allergens hide. If you'd like to help, hold the baby so mom can get a bite to eat, build a block tower, read a book, or follow our toddler around for awhile to give his mom a break. There are many ways to show love that do not involve food!
- Talk to us first! If you are hosting a child who has food allergies, talk to the parents in advance. If you are setting out foods that may be safe, save all of the wrappers. Better yet, let the allergy mom or dad help you put the safe chips out. (Remember that if you touch the cookies with nuts or the shrimp, and then touch the chips, they are now cross-contaminated.)
- Try not to fuss over what our child is eating. If he or she needs to have a different menu of safe foods, please don't call attention to it. Don't make food allergies a big topic of conversation. For example, "Well what can he eat?"
- We'd be grateful if you'd confine the food to one or two areas. For example, don't allow food into the family room, or the basement if that is where the children will be playing. That way, all the children will be safe and your house will be cleaner too!
- We'd love it if you'd ask your children to wash their hands. We know that your kids are able to eat whatever they like, but children are notoriously messy eaters. You'd be doing us a great favor if you'd encourage them to wash their hands when they're done eating. We know it's not our place to ask this of your children but we worry that our kids are not safe if they share toys or touch each other with food residue.
- Ask for suggestions because we want to make this work for everyone. If you want to bring something to a home with a food allergic child, talk to the parents in advance for specific suggestions. Your homemade casserole or brownies may not be suitable but a bottle of wine, some fresh ground coffee, a fun board game, whole fruit, or some beautiful disposable hand towels for the powder room might be appreciated.
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WOW, I couldn't have said it better myself!! I would add, though, that this goes for all get togethers, not just at the holidays. MOPS, church functions, parents in church or other public places in general, like libraries, play gyms, etc (trying to keep their own kids quiet with food can risk another child's life). Keeping food in 'food designated areas' is SOOOO considerate to those of us dealing with these issues!! For more great food-allergy-related info, check out the AllergyMoms website!
~Lindsay
Comments
Jan. 26, 2008 - Thanks for posting this website, I'd not heard of it.
Posted by 4kiddos4me
Three of our kids have food allergies, thankfully only one has any anaphylactic responses - boy is that scary! He's old enough now to know what foods he can't eat, but when he was little leaving him alone anywhere was nerve-racking.
Aug. 29, 2008 - food allergies
Posted by LanaFalana
It would appear that you would have a hard time going anywhere with your child if they had this problem. Definately not to the grocery store and it doesn't seem like you could visit many homes either. Most people just eat, drink and be merry in their own home. I would think that a lot of surfaces would be contaminated. I definately could not imagine what it would be like to have this situation be a part of my everyday routine.
Stay positive.
