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Growing Pains - Finding the Balance

Posted on Jan. 21, 2008 at 10:58 PM

I must admit, I'm not doing a very good job of finding that balance.  Samuel is 18 and will probably be out of the house soon.  He wants his independence badly.  I totally understand.  In his quest for it though, it feels like he is pulling away.  He doesn't need me for things like he used to need me.  He doesn't want me to be a helicopter parent and "hover" over him all the time.  I'm trying to use wisdom and pull back just the right amount, but I'm not doing a very good job.  I got frustrated with him tonight when he asked me to rub his legs...he still has the physical growing pains at times.  Instead of being thankful for  this time when he DOES need me, I got upset because he doesn't want me involved MORE.  I missed a special time.  There is so much more I want to say to him.  There is so much more I want to share with him.  Time is running out.  I haven't had LONG enough!  He is growing in another direction.  He's had enough of my sharing for now.  I need to find the balance so that I don't push him away.  One day he will realize he still needs me, right?

This really stinks.   

It's Okay, Beth...

Posted by Cathe on Jan. 22, 2008 at 10:27 AM - Link

God has exciting plans for YOU! You have done a great job with your sons, and you do have a few full-time years left there, but when the boys move on to the next stage of life, so will you. You have done a very important task for God - well done! Start looking around now, praying and preparing for what He would have you do next.