It seems so funny now, but when I went to fix the few things I needed to for Christmas meal nothing went right.  The first batch of bread was a flop, then the second batch i dropped the cinnamon container  and it spilled all over the dough, then when making a cheesecake I dropped half an egg shell into the mix as it was mixing.  UGH!!  Anyone want some eggshell cheesecake?  It turned out ok after I sifted through all the batter with my figures as i put it into the pan.  lol 

on Christmas day all family came to our home.  Dh didn't get up until 9 am, so that set us a bit behind on getting our own family Christmas traditions done.  We like to open presents as a family and then we eat cinnamon rolls for breaky.  By the time we got all that done, and then cleaned up our mess ect it was 11:45.  I still had not had a shower nor were any of my dc dressed, dh wasn't dressed either.  We had company arriving around noon, so hurried and got a shower and dressed, and two of my dc got dressed.  My mom and her husband showed up just as I was walking out of the bathroom.  My dining room table was not ready nor had my kitchen been vaccuumed.  I still had dishes in the sink.  My MIL showed up about 10 min later.  She came unglued that there were dishes in the sink and went on about how I should have not opened gifts with our family and been cleaning up my kitchen.  I was ready to tell all who complained to leave.  I am 6 wks post partem, and have a VERY fussy baby who take most of my time.  I did not care that my house was not in perfect condition, I was happy that i got to spend some time with my family.  However, by the time my mom and mil had their say I felt guilty for spending time with my family.  I know that I was most likely right in the fact that dishes will wait, floor messes will wait, but my dc will only remember that mom either took the time to spend with them or spent it cleaning up things that were not emergent.  My mil doesn't even clean her own home, she has a housekeeper come in for 8-10 hours a week.  They have a small house, 2 bedroom, 2 bath a family room and a den, and kitchen.  She only works about 30 hrs a week, why can't she do her own?  And why does she feel the need to grump about mine? 

Friday I have family coming to stay for 5 and 6 days.  My house again is not perfect, but if they don't like it they can pick up a rag and broom and help me out.  My baby is not sleeping, I am not healing well, and my dc need a mom that is not so concerned that her house is spotless that she becomes a basket case.  I did become that basketcase before Christmas, and that is not how I want my dc to remember me if something should happen to me.  So, for those of you who are like me, concerned about housekeeping, but also concerned about how you come accross to your children.  Ask yourself if a clean house is worth more then your children?  Do you spend as much time with them as you do cleaning?  IS the house going to matter in the end?  Is your house actually a mess as in germ filled and gross or just look like 5 or 6 or 8 or however many dc live there are there?  Mine looks like 5 children and a mommy and daddy live here.  There are days the beds never get made, the floors may have crumbs, and there may be dishes in the sink and clothes to fold and put away.  Does it matter in the end that those things need done?  Most likely not, at the end of the day I want to be able to say, I know what my dc did and know that I was there for them. 

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