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Mar. 14, 2008
The "I'm Sorry" Fallacy

Posted in Deep Thoughts

While visiting with friends one day there was a discreptancy among our two boys.  We did the "good American" thing and had the older boy say "I'm sorry" to the younger child - then there is the hug and make-up ritual and everything is all better now.  End of story.

Our friend watched the process and, afterward, said this:

Before we come to Christ we
1.  need to recognize that we are sinners in need of a saviour.
Rom 3:23  For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;

2. Repent of your sins
Act 3:19  Repent ye therefore, and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out, when the times of refreshing shall come  from the presence of the Lord;

3. Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ as Lord and saviour.
Act 16:31  And they said, Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved, and thy house.

4. Turn away from your wicked ways
Eze 33:14  Again, when I say unto the wicked, Thou shalt surely die; if he turn from his sin, and do that which is lawful and right;

5. Sin no more
Joh 8:11   She said, No man, Lord. And Jesus said unto her, Neither do I condemn thee: go, and sin no more.

Here's the scenario - Johnny takes a toy from Katey - Teacher tells Johnny to give the toy back to Katey, Teacher now makes Johnny say "I'm sorry," hug, make-up and all is better now.

Or is it
Not more than two hours later this is repeated again-

To truly be sorry about something one needs to recognize the "action" is sin, repent of this sin,  than turn from this sin, and than not continuing the action - you now recognize that it is sin.

Rom 6:1  What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin, that grace may abound?
Rom 6:2  God forbid. How shall we, that are dead to sin, live any longer therein?

To look further at the scene - Teacher pats Johnny on head, tells him what a good boy he is and what not - Johnny now feels good about himself and has now learned how to manipulate the system or become a good liar.

The "Christian" churches of today teach the same philosophy but concerning salvation instead - Just "believe" in Jesus as Lord and now your saved - Your "IN"......Jesus Loves U - oh, did we tell you about all the amazing stuff He wants to give you......This is much different than what it says in Luke 24:47  And that repentance and remission of sins should be preached in his name among all nations, beginning at Jerusalem.

God is not mocked - Gal 6:7  Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. He knows the heart...
Jer. 17:9 -  The heart is deceitful above all,  things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?

One of our favorite child trainers tells the story of when his daughter became a believer - He simply said "We'll see 6 months from now and left it at that."

2Co 7:9  Now I rejoice, not that ye were made sorry, but that ye sorrowed to repentance: for ye were made sorry after a godly manner, that ye might receive damage by us in nothing.

Now when our children do something that needs to be called an "I'm sorry"  we show them that what they did is SIN, we inform them that sin is what separates us from God and that if they are really sorry, they won't do it again.  Bad behavior does not get rewarded - we say We'll See -
after all, when it comes to our children occupying heaven or hell this is nothing to play around with.

A result of this is our children recognizing what SIN is.  A couple weeks ago my 7yo came up to me and apologized to me for not listening to me earlier in the day.  I could see that his apology was sincere, after all he had had over 3 hours to think about his action.  Over the course of the next couple days I could tell that he was really trying hard to listen.  This is met with praise and encouragement.  He is learning the difference between right and wrong.  This is preparing him to hear the Father knocking on his hearts door and making a heart that will be moldable by God.

This makes for one proud Momma!!






 

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Mar. 17, 2008 - Forgiveness

Posted by Joyful Grandma


When we can learn to forgive before the person even admits their guilt, than we know we can love with the love of Jesus. In Luke 23:34 Jesus says, "Forgive them Father, for they know not what they do." Even if a person does not know how to "say they are sorry", we release ourselves from the bondage of unforgiveness by forgiving them anyway.


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Mar. 18, 2008 - Saying I'm Sorry

Posted by Living in Grace


I've been thinking about this the past couple of days. I read something this morning in my daily devotions that pertains to this I think. "Suffering and testing will either sweeten or sour you, soften or harden you. There is an old familiar illustration which says that the same sun will melt the wax but harden the clay. It is the character of, or the condition of, the element and not the sun that melts the wax and hardens the clay. God is not going to harden us." So if one already has a spirit of unforgiveness, God will just bring that out into the open. Sometimes things that happened in our past have caused our hearts to harden, and we don't realize it but it affects our future. If we can't say we are sorry to our fellow man, whom we can see....than how are we going to say we are sorry to God, whom we can't see. Not recognizing and asking repentance for our actions, that have possibly hurt others is also a sin. I enjoy your website. Keep up the good mothering.


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Mar. 25, 2008 - Forgiveness

Posted by Anonymous


I was sorry to hear Michael Pearl had a heart attack. Sometimes I think unforgiveness harbors ill feelings within us, and it causes illnesses to surface. Didn't Mike write a book/CD called "When Forgiveness is a Sin"? I think Jesus tells us about forgiveness and how important it is in the Gospels. Maybe we should take our example from our Lord. Being stiff necked shouldn't be a part of our lives as believers


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