This weekend our family grew 2 more! No I did not have my baby yet! Instead the next best thing happened,I just got legal custody of my 9 year old niece and 15 year old nephew! It has been very stressful but now they will actually have a real home to finish growing up in. I am so happy to have them in our family and that they will finally be able to have the love and attention they need but I am also very scared,I am so young and not at all experianced in raising children, although my own 2 year old is turning out just fine I think!What I mean is  being a mother to more then one and on a full time basis. I guess all I have to do is look to God for help so I will just go day by day... Now the big question: Does anyone out there have any advice, tips,comments,etc for me? I know many of you who blogg on here have more then one Child and am sure that someone out there can give me some advice. Do you all think I did the right thing? I hope I did,if I wouldn't have took them in myself I would have had to live with them going to their real father(who isn't much of a father)or another relative(I can't say any other relatives could be much better)or last foster homes.Was I selfish,have I gotten myself into something too deep? Well I guess I will wait to see what some of you have to say,since I am pretty clueless. Thanks for reading... 

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Posted by eclecticeducation

Hi! Wow! I don't know all the details but it doesn't sound like you were being selfish. In fact, it sounds quite generous. As for parenting advice, I'm not sure how much help I could be. I have a 10 year old and a 4 year old. I guess the main thing is how close are you already to them. You need rules and they need to know what the rules are but you also are going to have to be real patient. They have already been through a lot so you might have to over look the small stuff while they are adjusting. Older children are much different from little ones and one of your biggest challenges will probably be your age. I really admire you for this. I don't know if I could have done what your doing at your age. You are going to have to gain their respect if they don't already have that type of relationship with you. This may be harder with the 15 year old boy and you may have to have your husbands help with it. Just be patient and you may want to seek out some help like a pastor or a councelor. Good Luck and please update us on your journey.

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Posted by AcceptanceWithJoy

[have I gotten myself into something too deep]

I used to do foster care. I adopted my daughter and she was enough at the time. Parenting a child that has been hurt is one of the most difficult things you will ever do... AND God is going to bless you tremendously by being obedient to this calling.

I don't know what the situation is that these kids were living in ~ so I will not share any specifics, but I will pray for wisdom as you travel this road.

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