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Nov. 6, 2008 - Thankful Thursday & Mental Health

I am thankful that my God is still on the throne, no matter who is the President of my country! I am thankful that God can use even the ungodly to fulfill His purposes.

No matter who is President:

-- God's purpose and His plans for my life will not change.

-- God will still give His children peaceful rest at night.

-- God will still provide for the needs of His children.

-- God will never leave me, nor forsake me.

-- God's character remains the same.

-- God is still in control and is not taken by surprise with the election results.

For all of the above, I am very thankful. I am so very grateful that I stand on the Solid Rock, that He is my fortress and my hiding place.

Today's devotion:

Mental Health

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Oct. 16, 2008 - Thankful Thursday and Into the Fire

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After spending nearly 40 minutes trying to get access to the Internet, I am thankful for finally being able to post this!

I am thankful for the fun dd and I had last night during a power outage. It was near dusk, and with the thick clouds, the house was getting dark very early. We played hide and seek in the dark. What fun!

This week I am thankful for the opportunity to attend the Mom's Night Out where I shared on the topic of preparing for high school. It was wonderful to spend an evening with like-minded ladies. What a refreshing evening!

I am also thankful that my aunt and my cousin were not murdered over the weekend. They live in a 2-apartment dwelling. Someone set fire to the other apartment. Thankfully, my aunt and my cousin were able to escape.

I am also thankful that my parents will be returning home tomorrow, after having been on a trip for the last two weeks.

I didn't attend church for two Sundays (one so we could have a family day together and one because I wasn't feeling well), so I am thankful that I was able to be in fellowship with my church family again this week. I know people say that you don't need to attend church to be a Christian, but I need that connection with the Body of Christ, and I'm not ashamed to admit it!

I am very thankful for those of you who prayed for me last week while I was going through some tough things. I am doing much better now after spending a lot of time with the Lord.

Speaking of going through a tough time, I wanted to take a moment to suggest that each of you pray for your pastor's family. Our pastor's father was not expected to make it through the night. On top of that, they have a son in the hospital, needing a heart transplant. Their "plate" has been quite full. You may never know what your pastor's family is dealing with behind the scenes, but God does. Lift them in prayer today. They need your prayers.

This week's devotion: Into the Fire

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Oct. 9, 2008 - Thankful Thursday and Building on the Rock

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This week, I am thankful for tears.

I am going through some really tough things right now, and the tears have been a sweet release to my pent-up emotions. I feel so alone right now, so I am thankful that I know my God has not left me, nor will He leave me, in spite of how I feel.

On a more positive note, I am also thankful that I managed to get my new website up and running.

This week's devotion: Building on the Rock

~~ Stacy ~~

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Oct. 2, 2008 - Thankful Thursday - The Convenient Zone

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This will be a very short post today. I just received word this morning that AOL is going to quit hosting free websites for their members. This means my entire website, filled with devotions, is going down. (Picture a panic-stricken face here.) After praying about what to do, the Lord has led me to move all of my devotions here. I have a LOT of work to do on this endeavor before they shut down all free websites, thus the reason I'm not listing several things for which I am thankful. What I am thankful for is that this didn't catch the Lord by surprise, and He is more than able to help me accomplish what needs to be done to get all of my material transferred over before the deadline.

The Convenient Zone

A lady taught me that in American Sign Language, the sign for “comfort” is the same sign used for the word “convenient.” We often hear people talk about stepping out of their comfort zone, but I want to take a look at stepping out of our “convenient” zone.

Ministry to others will often take us out of our convenient zone. Jesus gives us several examples. One day, Jairus was hurriedly taking Jesus to his home to minister to his daughter who was dying. On the way, a woman with an issue of blood approached Jesus and touched Him. In the eyes of Jairus, this was not a convenient time for Jesus to stop and talk to anyone. After all, his daughter was dying! Yet Jesus took the time to minister to this woman, letting her know that she was made whole. Jesus was never concerned with what was convenient. He was concerned with doing what was right. (Luke 8:40-48)

Many times when Jesus would try to enjoy fellowship with His friends, the people would seek Him. Even though He was trying to relax, He would set aside convenience in order to heal the sick. (Matthew 8:14-17)

While trying to sleep one night, His disciples woke Him, terrified that they were going to drown. In spite of the inconvenience, Jesus got up and rebuked the winds and waves. (Matthew 8:23-27)

When He arrived in the region of the Gadarenes, Jesus was approached by two demon-possessed men who were very violent. There is never a convenient time to have to deal with people who have gone mad, yet Jesus took time for them. (Matthew 8:28-34)

When Jesus went to heal a paralytic, He faced persecution from the religious leaders. (Matthew 9:1-8) Having faced much persecution from people, even in the body of Christ, I can attest that there is never a convenient time to deal with these kinds of issues.

How many times have you tried to withdraw to a solitary place, only to have someone call for you? Jesus knows how that is. (Matthew 14:13-14) In spite of the need to pull away, Jesus set aside convenience once again, in order to bring healing to the people.

We will have many opportunities to minister to others. Often, it will not be at the most convenient time. Yet, if we choose to be compassionate like Jesus, we may find that God uses us to bring healing to them. We just need to get out of our “convenient” zone.

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Sep. 25, 2008 - Thankful Thursday and Pop Goes the Bubble

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This week I am thankful for laughter, for a merry heart does good like medicine. My husband told me just the other day that I laugh so much that I should be the healthiest person on earth. Speaking of laughter, if you take the time to read the devotion posted below, I am sure that it will give you a .

I am also thankful for the gentle voice of the Holy Spirit. I have written devotions several times regarding my own struggle with computer usage. I have done much better lately, as far as making sure that I am doing something productive. However, the productive things I've done have required MUCH of my time. I recently switched history curriculum to go with a more literature-based curriculum, which required a LOT of time on the computer, trying to find the books I would need for this program. I am also in the process of preparing to speak at a Mom's Night Out on the topic of preparing for high school. In the midst of these endeavors, I have quit spending as much time in the Word. Because of that, I have felt the nudge of the Holy Spirit to pull back from my computer time again.

I usually take a Sabbatical the month of October from visiting my favorite forums on the Internet. It always helps me to regain a proper focus, as well as prepare my heart for the soon-to-come holiday season. I am so thankful the Lord is patient with me in this struggle to find a balance amidst the computer usage and the myriad of other things that seem to cry out for my attention. Lord, help me to grant that kind of patience to my dd as she struggles with things in schools, with her ever-changing hormones, and with life, in general.

Pop Goes the Bubble

I remember when Rachel was only 2. She was in the bathtub, and passed gas. She looked down into the tub, and excitedly exclaimed, "Oh! Bubbles!" Needless to say, I cracked up. Even as she grew older, she was still fascinated with bubbles. She could be in the tub playing, and I would hear her yell, "Mommy, come here! You have to see this bubble!" Invariably, the bubble which brought her so much joy would be gone before I could make it in there.

There are many things which this world offers us which can seem so appealing and so pretty, but just like the bubble, in an instant, the "beauty" of it all is gone. Let's take a look at some scenarios.

The job that offers such prestige - prestige, which could fade at any given moment. The job market doesn't seem to be too stable these days. Pop! There went the "bubble." (That same job could require you to be away from your dear family and miss out on precious time that could never be recaptured.) The O.T. is so clear about how we are to diligently teach our children about spiritual things. How can we do that when we are gone so much of the time? When we are finally able to be with them, who would have the energy or the patience to be instructing them in righteousness?

Please don't misunderstand, I am not knocking women who MUST work outside the home, but oftentimes, working outside the home is because we "MUST" have this new house, this bigger house, this fancy car, the fancy clothes for us and for our children.......It becomes a matter of working, not to provide for the family, but to get THINGS to satisfy us. Oops, did the "bubble" just pop again?

The lure of the mall. We get bored so we go shopping. We get frustrated, so we go shopping. We get happy, so we go shopping..... You get the picture. The mall is a lure to many women. While we are there, we tend to buy impusively. Later, when we get home, and have to explain the charges on the credit card, or why we don't any longer have the money to buy the groceries, the temporary "high" which we get from shopping so quickly fades.

The lure of activities for our children. I see so many families, who get their children involved in so many activities. So many, in fact, that they hardly ever get to spend much time together. They miss out on the precious family meal times, or the chance to just spend an evening playing games. Too often, it ends up being a time where everyone is rushed, Mom is yelling, the kids are arguing......and the list goes on. Once again, the "bubble" pops, and the glitter of this activity fades away.

There are even some things which are good, noble causes. BUT, if God has not given us the OK to be involved in these activities, the "bubble" will pop again. For instance, maybe you want to be involved in Women's ministries at your church. But being involved there can put another demand on your plate, which is already full, just trying to take care of the family, the house, the laundry, the grocery shopping. You may be maxed out with just the everyday tasks that HAVE to be done. Being involved in women's ministries may make you feel like you are being a better Christian, or that you are doing your good deed by being there, but it could also be the thing that leaves you frazzled because maybe this just isn't the "season" for you to be heavily involved in anything besides your own family.

Let me explain a little further on these things. The Bible says that there is a season for everything. I can give you a personal example regarding the women's ministry. (I used that illustration because it fit my situation.) Our women's group would meet on Tuesday mornings. I wanted to be there and be part of the group, but I homeschool, so which is my priority? Yes, I could rearrange the homeschool day so that I could teach later, but for me, my better hours of the day are in the morning. If I didn't get school done in the morning, chances were very high that it wouldn't get done at all. The teaching and training of my child on Biblical principles and academics was higher on the priority list than attending the women's Bible study. (A side note on this - now the women's group is meeting on Wed. nights. Since we are there every Wed. anyway, this has turned out to be a real blessing to me.)

I Cor. 3:11-13 says "For no one can lay any foundation other than the one already laid, which is Jesus Christ. If any man builds on this foundation using gold, silver, costly stones, wood, hay or straw, his work will be shown for what it is, because the Day will bring it to light. It will be revealed with fire, and the fire will test the quality of each man's work." (NIV)

II Tim. 2:20-21 says, "But in a great house there are not only vessels of gold and silver, but also utensils of wood and earthenware, and some for honorable and noble use and some for menial and ignoble use. So whoever cleanses himself from what is ignoble and unclean, who separates himself from contact with contaminating and corrupting influences will then himself be a vessel set apart and useful for honorable and noble purposes, consecrated and profitable to the Master, fit and ready for any good work." (Amp. Bible)

Father, may you help us to see clearly the purpose you have for us at this time. Yes, it may change down the road, but help us now to see it, to embrace it, and to welcome it. Help us to be content in the ministry where you have placed us, and to find joy in the journey. Help us to focus our energies on the things which would bring honor to Your Name, and to pull ourselves away from those contaminating, luring things which this old world would love to offer us. Help us to find that life abundantly - the life which is in You, alone. Amen.

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Sep. 18, 2008 - Thankful Thursday - Homeland Security

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This week I am thankful for the wonderful time we had last weekend, celebrating my parents' 50th wedding anniversary. What fun!

I am thankful for the beautiful weather we are currently having. I am also thankful that when the remnants of Ike blew through this area, we didn't have flooding and lose power like many others in our state did.

I am thankful for the privilege of homeschooling. Since my husband is out of town this week, we had some homeschool friends join us for lunch on Tuesday. It was wonderful to take a break and spend some time visiting with them.

I am thankful for a comfy bed in which to rest my weary body at the end of a long, busy day.

Homeland Security

In pondering on terrorist attacks, I realized that not only do terrorist attacks come into our home, but we are capable of launching them ourselves. Just as our own country now has a department called 'Homeland Security,' we also need to devise a spiritual 'Homeland Security' plan.

Many of us are entering that stage of life where we may see our husband go through a mid-life crisis. As men reach the stage of life where the hair begins to thin and the waist begins to thicken, they may suddenly realize that as they go walking down the street, they no longer draw the attention of women. Ladies who may likely do a double-take when they see a good-looking man, don't even acknowledge that he exists. They may get that sudden panic-stricken feeling of realizing that their youth is quickly fading before their eyes. To top it off, they come home, only to hear the following kinds of comments:

'Dad, can I have an increase on my allowance?'

'The washer quit working today, and the car is acting up.'

'Did you remember to stop by the store and pick up some milk?'

'Dad, did you write out the check for church camp registration?'

'I need money so that I can pay the bills.'

'Junior got put in detention for the second time this week.'

'Janie got a D on her report card.'

Suddenly, not only does he feel old and fat, but he feels very unappreciated and unloved. Part of devising a homeland security plan is to be very strategic about the timing of these kinds of issues. We also need to teach our children to be mindful of how and when they approach their father with these kinds of requests.

Ladies, if we aren't careful, we can launch a terrorist attack of infidelity. You see, we are told in Eph. 5:33 that we are to respect our husband, to notice him, prefer him, praise him, compliment him, and admire him exceedingly. (Amp.) When we fail to do this, it can further launch him toward the temptation of an affair. The other woman never brings him problems (like a broken washer, car repairs, etc.), but she plays up to his ego. She compliments him, admires him, praises him, notices him, and she even takes the time to listen to him. She does what we may have failed to do. When we take the time to give our husband what I call 'positive strokes,' we launch a homeland security plan that keeps him coming home to us, rather than looking to another woman.

Continuing on the subject of homeland security, keep in mind that when your husband has been out working all day, he likely sees dog-eat-dog competition, and hears negative talk, criticism, and backbiting, not to mention a lot of ungodly talk in the form of dirty jokes and foul language. A perfect solution for this would be to give him some time to read the Word when he first gets home. However, I have heard from many women that their husband won't take the time to read the Word. The blood of Jesus cleanses us from our own sin, and the Word cleanses us from the dirty things to which we are exposed on a daily basis. So if our husband isn't taking time to read the Word, letting it cleanse him from the filth that he's dealt with all day long, how can we launch a homeland security plan to help him? We need to counter all of that negative 'stuff' when he comes home. If he isn't in the habit of reading the Word, we can try to offer a pleasant, wholesome atmosphere in our home. We can be diligent about reading the Word ourselves, and then sharing in conversation with him the things we are learning, or even letting him know how we are being challenged in our own walk.

Many times in our marriage, our spouse may say something that angers us. If we don't quickly crucify our flesh, we will launch an ungodly terrorist attack by lashing out in our anger and bringing up past issues and past hurts. That kind of attack may cause damage to our marriage that is similar to the Twin Towers when they came crashing down. The very foundation was destroyed. Rather than destroying the foundation of our marriage in the heat of an argument, let's determine to have a homeland security plan that shows us to be peacemakers, showing ourselves to be true daughters of God. (Mt. 5:9) We are to make every effort to live in peace with ALL men, including our husband. (Heb. 12:14)

Another homeland security plan that I have enforced is by teaching my daughter that we are to be different -- aliens and strangers on this earth. (Heb. 11:13) We don't dress in tight-fitting, hip huggers or low-cut, tight-fitting shirts because as Christian ladies, we are to be self-controlled and chaste in our actions, deeds, and our manner of dress so that God's Word won't be blasphemed or exposed to reproach. (Tit. 2:5) We are to control our bodies in purity, not dressing like the ungodly who purposely dress with the intent to get men to lust for them. For when we dress and behave immodestly, we defraud young men by getting them to think that we can provide satisfaction for them, and it's GOD who should bring ultimate satisfaction to them. God doesn't take this matter lightly either -- rather, He will punish all (wo)men for such sins. (I Th. 4:4-6) By starting the teaching on modesty and proper behavior at a young age, we have engaged a homeland security plan that may help to keep our daughters pure in body, mind, and spirit. It can help to destroy the terrorist attacks that are so prevalent in the lives of many young ladies in this day and age.

Many times when our hormones are all out of kilter, our tongues can unleash a vicious terrorist attack. One plan to keep the homeland safe during these times is to meditate on Phil. 4:8. If we find that our thoughts aren't true, noble, just, pure, lovely, virtuous, or praise worthy, we can go to war and take our thoughts captive and make them obedient to Christ. (II Cor. 10:5) There is nothing wrong with taking some medication to help us during those time of crabbiness. I've taken herbal medicines, as well as a generic premenstrual medication to help soothe my raging hormones. I also go on the offensive and warn my family that my hormones are acting crazy. I ask them to please try to bear with me. I let them know that if I'm short-tempered and cranky with them, it's not their fault. They are much more likely to grant me grace in those times if I simply forewarn them.

In this final lesson on homeland security, we will be discussing how to launch a plan to teach our children faithfully about the Lord. We will also deal with the overwhelming issue of suffering through depression, even when you have been faithful to read the Word of God.

Another very pro-active homeland security plan is to be faithful to teach our children about God, and how God wants us to live. So many times, parents leave the spiritual training to the church and the workers at the church. Having worked in children's church for quite some time, I can assure you that a lot of time is wasted during children's church because of the rowdy children. I know that many times the workers wonder if any of their message came across because of the myriad of distractions they face every week.

As a parent, I know that we are all tired at the end of the day, and we just want to send the kids off to bed so that we can have some peace, but that is a prime time to talk with the children. They are very open in those moments. Don't let a satanic terrorist steal those moments from you, never to be recaptured. If you make this a habit, in only a matter of about thirty days, it will become an automatic habit and a good one! You will never regret taking that time to talk with your children. Sometimes the subject will get off target, but that's all right. Let them talk, and be sure to really listen to them. If you don't take time to listen and talk with them now about the unimportant issues, they won't talk to you later about the really important issues.

Too many people are quick to condemn those who suffer with depression. They leave you with the impression that if you read the Word, it will take care of any depression. While that is true in many case, it isn't true in all cases. Sometimes there are physical things wrong that need to be corrected through medication. To those of you who may be on medicine for depression, I want to say, 'Bless you for getting help!' You may be facing guilt and condemnation from the enemy. In fact, some of that guilt and condemnation may even be coming from your own church family. I applaud you for realizing that you needed some help from a doctor. Because of your wisdom in seeing this need, you may never realize what kinds of terrorist attacks you may have stopped just by simply taking medication to help your body function the way God made it to function. You have launched an effective security plan for yourself, and for your family. Don't feel guilty about being on the medication. After all, God is the one who gave doctors the wisdom to help you!

Sisters, do you need to start up some homeland security in your home?

© October 2004, Stacy R. Miller

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Sep. 11, 2008 - Thankful Thursday and Terrorist Attacks

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To share what I am thankful for this week, I must tell you a bit of a story.

When I worked at the hospital several years ago, I met a wonderful Christian gal named Judy. I always called Judy my kindred spirit. It was a very special friendship because each time we talked to each other, there was something encouraging shared. Our talks always led to discussing the Lord.

While I was pregnant with my dd, Judy was taking fertility treatments and ended up expecting triplets. She went into labor at 26 weeks. Unfortunately, two babies died very shortly after birth. Zachary died the Sunday before Thanksgiving. It was heartbreaking.

When I was grieving over my miscarriage from the year before, I needed to talk my way through it. Judy needed to grieve privately.

We ended up losing contact because at the time Judy gave birth, I was a SAHM and didn't see Judy at the hospital every day. It has been over 11 years since I've seen her.

Just within the past six months, I asked the Lord (again) to make a way for me to find Judy. I dearly miss her. I even used the internet, trying to find her, all to no avail.

I joined a new small group at church last night. As we went around the table introducing ourselves, I heard a lady say her name was Betty C***. She is Judy's mother-in-law! I finally have a way to get in touch with my precious friend again! I was overwhelmed with emotions when I got home from church -- so much so that I began to weep at the goodness of the Lord.

So this week, I am thankful God made a way for me to reconnect with my dear friend Judy. For those of you who have been praying for something years, don't give up!

In honor of 9/11, I decided to go with this devotion:

Terrorist Attacks

When we hear the term 'terrorists,' most of us will think back to the terrifying events of September 11, 2001. We weren't doing anything to warrant such a vicious and unexpected attack, and it became very clear in the days following the attack that it was a very strategic one. It was carefully planned to have the utmost impact.

I remember discussing the idea of starting this Internet ministry with a dear friend. I was wanting her thoughts and any wisdom she had to share. Her husband quickly mentioned that I should be on guard against attacks of the enemy. After much prayer and input from other close confidantes, I launched this ministry and was amazed at how fast it took off and began to flourish. I kept watching for an attack, yet none seemed to be coming. Finally, I became lax about being watchful for the enemy's attacks. Satan caught my laxness and launched a vicious attack against me and my family. A spiritual terrorist had invaded my home, and I was completely unprepared for the war in which I found myself fighting.

It started slowly -- we discovered those nasty carpenter ants had invaded our home. Shortly after we began treating that, a tornado went directly over our home. Thankfully, it didn't touch down until it has passed over us. I breathed a sigh of relief and my heart was turned to praising God over and over for His watchful care and protection.

Suddenly, within a period of about three weeks, Rachel developed a chronic cough that not only was untreatable with codeine, but we discovered after two sleepless nights that codeine was a stimulant to her system, rather than a suppressant. My husband has faced a myriad of problems with his job -- nothing really big, but rather, those little things that tend to nag at you, destroying your sense of peace and order. Nevertheless, it's been quite trying for all of us. Then the car had some major repairs. When I went to pick up the car, it never even made it home! Thus, more costly repairs followed the very next day.

The 'straw that broke the camel's back' for me was Mother's Day weekend. That is a very emotional weekend for me, being that I miscarried my first baby only a few weeks before Mother's Day. Even with as thankful as I am to have Rachel, there will always be the memory of my first Mother's Day, spent with a heart that was grieving, dreams that had been shattered. This same weekend, Dean made some critical comments to me that really wounded me. I was an emotional wreck anyway (but he didn't realize that), and then when adding to my fragile state-of-mind that words of affirmation is my primary love language, you can understand why his words were so hurtful. Anyone who thrives on words of affirmation is crushed when someone is critical of them. Any criticisms must be spoken gently, and with much love. Instead of having an enjoyable weekend, I spent the entire day crying.

Not realizing that a spiritual terrorist attack was underway, I began to listen to the lies of the enemy. I'm sure that many of you have heard these kinds of lies coming from Satan:

--You have no business teaching other women when it's obvious your husband isn't happy with the way you are taking care of things here.

-- And to think that you were thinking of yourself as one who is becoming a Proverbs 31 lady! You're not even close!

-- Who are you to teach others about submission when your husband thinks you do a terrible job in that area?

-- You do a poor job of showing biblical love to your family, yet you think you have something to do teach others! Get real -- you can't do ANYTHING right!

-- You are a terrible housekeeper, a terrible mother, a terrible wife, a terrible Christian! Who are trying to kid?

In actuality, my husband's words had absolutely nothing to do with being loving, submissive, caring, or with the ministry to which God has called me. His words had nothing do with the kind of wife and mother I am. Satan had taken one little hurtful comment from my husband and twisted it to unleash an awful terrorist attack upon my thinking.

Thankfully, the Lord spoke to me and asked me what I knew about my husband's character. Here are some of the things He asked me:

-- Is he usually a cruel man?

-- Is he rude to me or others?

-- Did he have a habit of belittling me or others?

-- Would he ever purposely say something that he knew would deeply hurt me?

-- If he knew that I was grieving over the miscarriage, would he have spoken something that could have hurt me so badly?

The answer to all of these questions was 'NO!'

Next, the Lord gently reminded me that I had recently mailed out the devotions about how He'd set me free from a violent temper. He reminded me of the many responses I received after writing about my own struggles. Suddenly, I realized that without even knowing what I was doing, I had launched a terrorist attack on the forces of hell, and now they were fighting back. It became crystal clear to me why on Mother's Day weekend my husband spoke something that hurt me so badly. Satan saw my frame of mind, and he used my husband's words to try to get me to give up on everything. What better way to attack a woman whose desire is to be a virtuous, godly, submissive, loving, and respectful wife? What better way than to attack a stay-at-home mom -- attack her in a way that makes her feel that she can't do anything right, and that even her own husband doesn't appreciate her!

Stay-at-home moms expect that the world won't value or appreciate them for the sacrifices they make, or for the job they do in raising up a godly generation. What we don't expect is to hear criticisms (valid or not) from our husband!

The Lord had given me a clear picture of Satan's terrorist attack against me. (II Cor. 2:11) Now it was my turn to stand against those schemes. (Eph. 6:11) I quickly went to Psalm 91 and declared every promise there for my household. I began to pray more strategic prayers, using missiles filled with the blood of Jesus to stop the scud missiles of spiritual darkness in the heavenly realms. (Eph. 6:12) I began to mentally put on the armor of God (Eph. 6:13), being especially mindful of the helmet of salvation to protect my thinking -- making sure that my thoughts lined up to the truth, and not thinking upon those things which came from the Father of Lies. (Jn. 8:44)

I wish that I could tell you that this terrorist attack from Satan was over. Unfortunately, we are still dealing with attacks, even in a physical sense. Rachel had a pinched nerve in her neck just last week, not to mention several stomachaches. I have been hit physically in a couple of ways recently. The onslaught does continue, but I'm using my greatest weapons -- prayer, quoting the Word, and fighting back through the power and authority I've been given through Jesus Christ.

So, here's a breakdown of how to handle it when we are hit with a terrorist attack:

1. Don't ever quit being on guard against the enemy for yourself, or for your family.

2. Realize that Mother's Day is a great weekend for Satan to attack you. Satan doesn't want you to realize the impact you have on your children and your husband! If you have times of the year that are exceptionally emotional times for you, warn your family ahead of time that you may be especially emotional. Ask them to try to be mindful of your raw emotions, and to grant some extra grace to you during those times.

3. When something happens between you and your husband, don't listen to all of that twisted conversation that comes directly from Satan. Rather, repeat to yourself what you know to be true about your husband.

4. Speak the Word over yourself and your family on a consistent basis. It will help to alleviate those terrorist attacks, and the attacks that do still come will be lessened if you are filled up with the Word of God.

5. Talk to a trusted friend who can help pray you through. Keep in mind - I'm not talking about calling her up and 'husband bashing.' I'm talking about mentioning some of the concerns you have, listening for some insights from her, and agreeing in prayer together.

6. Ask God what He is trying to teach you when you go through spiritual attacks and trials. This pleases God to know that you aren't so consumed with your problems that you can't keep looking for Him to show you some awesome lessons. Then, wait in expectation to see how He answers you! I can personally testify to being in total awe of some of the things God has shown me when I have asked Him what He's trying to teach me. In fact, this message was born out of that kind of prayer.

Sister, are you dressed for war?

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Sep. 4, 2008 - Thankful Thursday & Crawling into His Shell

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1. I am so thankful this week for the Lord's provision. Last weekend, I took an inventory of all the meat I had in the freezer. I sat down to write out my menu plan for our evening meals. Before I knew it, I had my menu plan done through October! Yes, you read that right. Not just September, but also October! With the exception of needing to buy a couple of packages of meat and one can of salmon, all of my meat is provided for through October!

This provision of the Lord has come at a great time. DD is outgrowing her clothes, so as soon as the long-sleeved shirts are on the racks, we will try to find her a few new ones, along with hitting the Goodwill Store. Why is it that the stores will put out Christmas items in late September or early October, yet they fail to put fall clothing in the stores the month when fall arrives?

2. I am also thankful for finding time over the holiday weekend to make more than 3 pounds of hot dog sauce. That should carry us for several months.

3. I praise the Lord for another WONDERFUL service at the new church we are attending. The worship was so sweet, and the presence of the Lord was so strong that if I had let myself, I could have cried a bucket of tears, just enjoying His presence.

Pastor Jeff''s son is on the heart transplant list. It has been a very bumpy road for the family. Richard suffered cardiac arrest over 2 weeks ago, and is still on the ventilator. Pastor Jeff was talking about faith. He said, "Sometimes faith is a lump in your throat." So very true. His message was great timing for many in this community because over 600 people have recently lost jobs at a local factory.

4. I just realized this week that we are now 1/4 of the way done for the year in math, language arts, and vocabulary. That makes me

Crawling Into His Shell

I often hear women complain that their husbands won’t ever talk to them. Invariably, they refer to him as having crawled into a shell.

On the other hand, women rarely seem to have trouble talking when something is bothering them. We whine, complain, nag, and yell. We are often like the constant dripping in Proverbs 27:15-16.

Why is it so hard for men to open up to us? Many times, the answer lies with us. We make it impossible for them by making them feel that they don’t measure up to our expectations. We have a keen way of making them think they are never good enough. Opening up to a woman like that when a man feels so vulnerable would be like entering a snake pit, with her poisonous tongue striking again and again. It’s no wonder men would prefer to crawl into a shell!

If we want our husbands to open up to us, there are a few things we can do.

1. Choose to do him good and not harm. (Proverbs 31:12) Sometimes the best way we can “do him good” is by lending him a listening ear. Many times, he is not looking for a solution to his problems; he simply wants a safe place to vent.

2. We can clothe ourselves with strength and dignity. (Proverbs 31:25) We need to develop the strength to restrain ourselves when we are tempted to say something critical. When we clothe ourselves with dignity, we have a proper and godly self-image. People who don’t have a godly self-image often do not have a lot of self-respect. They are often people who have been hurt. Hurt people will hurt other people. Frequently, the one hurt is our husband.

3. We can choose to speak words of wisdom and faithful instruction. (Proverbs 31:26) One way to do this when our husband needs to vent, is to say, “Honey, how can I help you?” We could say, “Would you like for me to pray with you about this?” It shows respect to him because we are not pushing our opinions on him.

4. Put a guard on your mouth. (Psalm 141:3) The best way to guard our mouth is by daily submitting it to the Lord, asking Him to help us speak words that are loving, kind, gentle, and full of grace.

If we are diligent to do these four steps, instead of watching him retreat into his shell, we may hear him praising us. (Proverbs 31:28)

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Aug. 28, 2008 - Got Critics?

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This week I am very thankful for the change in the weather. I love fall time, and from the remnants of Fay, we have had lots of breezy, cool days, though no rain.

I am thankful for the Word of God. I have been doing an in-depth study on Psalm 119, and it is so rich! I wish I could have you gals over so we could "feast" on this portion of scripture together.

I am thankful for my family, friends, church family, and my blogging friends.

Once again, I am having serious computer issues this week. I cannot get most pages to load, let alone post a comment.

For those who have asked, my wrists are both bothering me a lot -- still lots of pain and tingling. On top of that, my back is acting up again too. I am praying that it heals quickly because I really don't want to miss church on Sunday! I just LOVE the new church we've been attending and can't wait to get there each week!

Got Critics?

Doesn't it hurt to find out that others are criticizing you? I was pondering on this one night and decided to look in scripture at some of the many times where Jesus found Himself in the same place. Often, He saw His critics face to face while they were hurling their accusations.

He was accused of blasphemy. Mt. 9:3

He was accused of being possessed and of driving out demons by the prince of demons. Mt. 9:34, 12:24, Jn. 7:20, 8:52-53, Lu. 11:15, Mk. 3:22

He was criticized for working on the Sabbath. Mt. 12:1-2, Mk. 2:23-24, Lu. 6:2,6-7, 13:10-14, Jn. 5:16. I thought that it was interesting to note that in Luke 6:2,6-7 when Jesus was criticized by the Pharisees (leaders of the church), He went on to say in that same chapter to pray for your enemies and do good to them (v. 27-28). In verse 37 He says not to judge others or to condemn others. We will often have our own critics when we make the choice to put Christ first, spouse second, and children third. Even people in the church get their priorities wrong. Some tend to think that by putting church work first that they are putting Christ first. There are many who appear to be putting church above their families, and I have seen the chaos that has come into their lives because of these erroneous actions.

In Mt. 26:6-9, Mark 3:20-21, and Jn. 7:4-5, His own family criticized Him and said that He was "out of His mind." Jesus went on to say that a prophet is without honor in his own town. (Mt. 13:54-57, Mk. 6:2-3) Many times, we will find that those closest to us won't understand how serious we are in our walk with the Lord. They will begin to criticize us. I have seen this in my own family, so I know how much it can hurt. Some of my family members say that I am brainwashing my daughter. That's odd - God's Word calls it "instructing her in righteousness." While reading about how the people in Nazareth were furious with Jesus, driving Him out of town, and hoping to throw Him off a cliff, I saw that Jesus "walked right through the crowd and went on His way." (Lu. 4:30) Father spoke to me and told me that as we walk His pathway, and we have critics who start talking so hatefully about us, He will enable us to also "walk right through the crowd" and go on our way.

In John 12:1-7 we find the story of Mary pouring expensive perfume and lavishing it upon the feet of Jesus. Judas was very critical of this action. Jesus said, "Leave her alone." Imagine the Master telling Satan to leave you alone. After I miscarried my first baby, I had months where I didn't read the Word because every time I did, I would start crying. I was tired of crying, and since the Word made me cry more, I quit reading. After I got through the most intense part of the grief, I was talking to the Lord. I asked Him why I didn't go through any condemnation from Satan for not reading the Word. He assured me that He doesn't put more on us than we can bear. I knew that He was telling me that when Satan wanted to heap condemnation upon me, Jesus told him, "Leave her alone!"

In Mk. 8:11 and Mk. 10:2, the Pharisees had come to test Jesus. Often, we will find that our own family members want to "test" us. They knew the person we were before Christ, and so they push and push, trying to provoke us. If they catch us in a weakened moment, and we fail to act in a Christian manner, we can count on hearing the words, "Oh! I thought you said that you were a Christian!"

In Mt. 8:34 we see that the people asked Jesus to leave their region after setting the demoniac free. When our lifestyles show a radical change because of our Lord's work within us, we may be asked to leave as well. (Like when we choose to homeschool) It may not be said to us in those words, but we may find ourselves missing out on invitations to do things. People whom we considered friends will suddenly stop calling. Family members may act distant with you at family get-togethers.

In Mt. 21:23, they asked Jesus by what authority He was doing different things. Many people will not understand why you homeschool, why you don't work outside the home, why you don't get your kids involved in lots of different activities, why you don't let your children view certain programs, why YOU don't view certain programs, and the list goes on..... They are questioning your authority on different issues. When facing our critics, we must always remember that we are to serve our Christ, looking only for HIS approval, and not the approval of man. (Gal. 1:10)

Jesus told us that if people persecuted Him, they are going to persecute us. (Jn. 15:20) In Mt. 5:11 He tells us that we are blessed when we are persecuted because of righteousness. We are told in II Tim. 3:12 that all who live godly lives will suffer persecution.

While it's never easy to be persecuted or criticized, we are given some words of encouragement in scripture. I Pet. 4:14 tells us that if we are insulted because of Christ, we are blessed, for God's Spirit rests on us! Heb. 12:1-3 tells us that we need to run with perseverance the race marked out for us. We need to fix our eyes on Jesus, and not grow weary and lose heart. Heb. 11:27 tells us that Moses persevered because he saw Him who is invisible. When we are persecuted by those closest to us because of our stand for the Lord, may we also "see Him who is invisible." While facing those who may oppose us, may we sense His presence right there with us because He said that He would NEVER leave us, nor forsake us. (Heb. 13:5)

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Aug. 21, 2008 - Thankful Thursday & Solitude

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What I am most thankful for this week is that we found out dd does not have juvenile diabetes!!!!!!! PRAISE THE LORD!

I posted several weeks ago about a new door the Lord was leading us through, but couldn't go into detail. I feel that I can now share the details. We have started the process of looking for a new church. This has been a very hard thing to do because I have been at our current church for nearly 25 years, and have been very involved in ministry there. I love the leadership there. They are wonderful, and deserve the highest respect for their service to the Body. However, the church has dwindled over the years to the point that there are basically no ministries for my dd, who is 12 yo. The topics they discuss in youth are a bit over her head. The time has come to look somewhere else so that dd has some teaching in a group setting that she can understand.

This week, we attended a church on the other end of town (7-1/2 miles away, whereas, our previous church is five BLOCKS away). It was simply wonderful. I felt like I was "home." I am so thankful for a refreshing time from the Lord while visiting there this week.

A lady I know, who has a dd with juvenile diabetes, is on the prayer team at this church. Since that is what my dd was being tested for on Monday, we had her pray over dd. What an awesome prayer it was! I wish I could have recorded it! Having walked this road with her own dd, she knew exactly what to pray.

I am so thankful that though I was a visitor in a new church, I was made to feel like one of the family.

This devotion is written in memory of my dear friend, Mary Pence, who went to be with Jesus on March 26, 2006. My dear sister, I will never forget you!

Solitude

Most women will admit that they feel guilty if they try to take some time for themselves. We get so caught up in our “Martha” role that we forget to do our “Mary” role. (Luke 10:38-42) Often times, we are so caught up being like Martha that we end up being uncomfortable when we try to switch and be more like Mary.



A precious friend of mine, whose name was Mary, went to be with Jesus last week. Our pastor paid the ultimate tribute to her when he said that Mary was a marvelous example to us of someone who could be busy like Martha, yet never failed to take time at the feet of our Lord. Mary certainly knew the importance of those times of solitude with Jesus.



When I first started teaching a Sunday school class, Mary was one of the ladies who faithfully attended. At first I was rather intimidated, having a lady who was quite a bit older than me in attendance. I was thinking, “She should be teaching me!” As time passed, I got to know Mary better and deeply appreciated her wit and wisdom. The ladies who attended the class really looked forward to coming every Sunday, not because I was some great teacher, but because we couldn't wait to see what Mary had to say! She was so much like the Proverbs 31 lady. When Mary opened her mouth, wisdom and faithful instruction easily flowed from her lips. (Proverbs 31:26) This was just another visible sign of what took place in Mary's times of solitude. She will greatly missed by many in the years to come.



What we must realize about solitude is that it is a MUST for us. Even Jesus had times of solitude.

He spent forty days alone in the desert. (Matthew 4:1-11)

He spent time alone before choosing the twelve disciples. (Luke 6:12)

After the twelve disciples returned from a preaching and healing mission in Mark 6:31, Jesus called them to a quiet place to rest with Him.

After healing a leper, Jesus went off to be alone. (Luke 5:16)

He took only three disciples with Him to a solitary place for the transfiguration. (Matthew 17:1-9) He went off by Himself to pray in the Garden of Gethsemane before giving His life for us. (Matthew 26:36-46)



If the Son of God needed times of solitude, how can we possibly think we don't need it? Solitude is not selfishness. Rather, it is vital for us if we hope to accomplish the tasks set before us. Rest and refuel before you try to meet the needs of your own ‘masses’ of people.



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Aug. 18, 2008 - Monday Meanderings & Rebuilding the House

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Monday Meanderings with

Journey Momma

1. We will be starting out Monday with a visit to the hospital. DD got some bad news at the doctor on Friday. Her random sugar check was high, so she has to do the two hour glucose test, after fasting all night.

2. I'm still dealing with some carpal tunnel symptoms, now affecting BOTH wrists and causing twitching in my index fingers. I am also having some trouble with my back, so once again, my computer time will be very limited this week.

3.I will be keeping an eye on my Ebay auctions this week. They end on Tuesday night.

4. Other than what is listed above, we will be focusing on school.

Rebuilding the House

It takes a lot of work to maintain a house. Periodically, we have to repaint the walls or change the wallpaper. We may even need to replace the flooring in the house because the sub floor goes bad. Toilets need replaced, pipes need cleaning when they get clogged. The outside will need fresh paint after several years. The hedges need clipped, the yard needs mowed. The roof will eventually need repaired or replaced. The tree limbs need to be cut back so they don't end up lying on the house. If we fail to do the upkeep on our house, it will become dirty and dingy. It will begin to stink. It may also be vandalized.

We are God's house. Just as it takes effort to maintain a physical house to live in, it also takes effort to maintain our ‘temple.’ If we aren't keeping ourselves in the Word, letting it ‘wash us’ (Ephesians 5:26), we will become dirtied by the world. If we don't daily seek God's help in becoming the aroma of Christ (II Corinthians 2:15), we will begin to stink because our carnal nature will rise up and try to take over. Next, we will find ourselves giving the devil a foothold. (Ephesians 4:27) Once he gets a foothold on us, it opens our temple up to being vandalized by spiritual forces of evil. (Ephesians 6:12)

In Ezra 5:2, we see where Zerubbabel and Jeshua set out to rebuild the house of God. Sometimes we need to do our own ‘rebuilding.’ When we find ourselves in a place where we've begun to neglect our ‘house,’ we need to repent and ask God to restore to us the passion for our first love. (Revelation 2:4)

Do you need to do some rebuilding?