Mar. 8, 2007 - rad
Hello I am maegen little sister
and I am glad that not all of sibs are rad because that would not be good.
that would not be cool I can not even stand the ones that I have there not vary fun to be with or even around. it's not fare the have made me cry so much it crazy. I think that they get under my skin to easy
or maybe it just that are so good at it they should not be so good at it.you know you might sometime you
could be as mean to them as there are to us.but that so just what they want but whatever.
sometimes when I just want to be with my little (rad)sister she will be so mean it not cool but
thats ok all i need to think it that all she is for be just make it seem like it is just one of those thing that happen to sisters all the time. well I got to go.oh yeah I have one thing to say.
RAD SUCKS!!!!!!!!!!!
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Feb. 7, 2007 - consistency
I find myself less and less excited to go on vacation/trips. sometimes I wish I could just stay home and have no none else see anything that goes on in this house. there have been so many time that we have taken the kids to a friends house and some how(even though we do our best not to make anything happen) one or more of the RAD kids seem to get themselves in trouble and make us look like the bad guys. how do they do it? I don't get it. even I(at age 14) could not out smart my 6 year old Rad brother(though I'm getting pretty close).I'm scared to death to go anywhere with them anymore.
I have found though that if you make it fun when things come up, by adding a little drama, humor, or maybe reward your self after you go through a trying day with your Rad sibling it does help a bit.
we do something called "energy drains" when one of the RAD kids gives you a really hard time you call an energy drain. that's where they have to pay you back the time they just took from you by maybe rubbing your back, bringing you a cup of water ect. ect. unfortunatly though whenever I call and energy drain they try their best to give me the worst. most of the time if you stick to it and say " you're not off the hook until you do it right" then eventually they MIGHT do it right. as of right now I've been trying to get a good back rub from my 7 year old sis since the middle of Jan and I still haven't gotten one. sometime consistency is so hard cuz I just loose my Patience and don't feel like sticking to the task at all. but consistency is the key.
I hope this post helped somebody in some way.
later
Meg
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Feb. 6, 2007 - stupid or humble?
what did I do to deserve this? why am I a target? I didn't hurt this child! all I'M trying to do is help him/her. why is she/he trying to brake me? I often ask myself these questions.
how can they look so cute and innocent when in actuality they're little turds?more so, how can other people out side of the family not see such and obvious problem?
we may look like the stupid one's here but actually, who are the one's so far off in judgment? who are the one's rejecting the love that could actually help them? we may look like the stupid one but if you think of it as humble rather than stupid, it kinda puts a whole new perspective on things. I mean seriously, are we stupid? is it something we did to make our selves look like idiots? are we loosing our minds? I might actually wonder these things every once in a while. but the answer is "no". we aren't the bad guys, our parents aren't the bad guys. we are living in a battlefield and though it may look like we are being the unfair form the outside looking in, the truth of the matter is: we are the ones being attacked. all we can do is love, or else they will win.
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Feb. 6, 2007 - what is RAD(reactive attachmeat disorder)
most people I know never even knew what RAD(reactive attachment disorder) meant until they got to know me. and for some people you might be wondering "what's the big deal? why does RAD have such an effect on people?" but for those of you who have felt the sting that a RAD child leaves on you, theres no question.
RAD is a very painful thing to live with whether you are the RAD one or a loved one of the RAD one. when a child does not get the love he/she needs while it is young it leaves a HUGE effect on them.
when you are a baby you cry when you're hungry, you cry when you're cold, you cry when you need to be held, but if you don't get the things you need when you are little you will grow not wanting these things any more.
everyone who try's to get into the heart of a RAD child could end up very hurt. I'm not saying there's no hope. I've seen battle and victories daily. I see my sibling hurt my mother, and my mother will stick to the task until she's won the battle. but is she winning the battle or did the RAD kid just play her. It's hurts so badly to see the hurt my family is going through because of RAD. sometimes I will look at my RAD sibling and think "those are such hurt children. they need all the tlc we can give them." but what will it take. it's killing us. we're all being torn apart right in front of each other's eyes and we can't even see it. when will it all be over? will we win? everyday is a new day. all we can do is hope that with each new day we come one step closer to the pain ending, one step closer to feeling love in our siblings' hugs, to seeing emotion in our siblings' eyes, to feeling happiness when we see their smile, one step closer to getting through these thick walls around their hearts.
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there are so many feeling inside a sibling of a Rad child's heart. so many un-seen feelings. as a sibling of 4 RAD children I personally know how hard it is to find support for all these feelings that seem to be set aside because of the many problems of a RAD child. I would like this to be a blog where siblings of a RAD children can come and get the support they need.
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