Oh My Goodness! I just had to come and write some more about the Romance Toolbox seminar by Cindy Rushton this weekend . . . well, actually today and Saturday. It has already been soooo good!
I was challenged to find the things that make my sweetie happy. At first I thought I was clueless but I realized that I do indeed know at least one thing he loves. QT coffee! Since we live about 20 minutes from the edge of town, he has a bit of a commute each day and a cup of coffee from Quik Trip makes him happy. So guess what? I'm getting him QT gift cards as often as I can afford to. (Things have been a little tight lately, so this will be a nice Valentine's gift for him.)
Then I thought some more and realized that we have always had this little thing. See both of our names begin with 'M'. So we are the M&M's. And when we got married, someone gave us a very large bottle (I think it must've been one of those gallon pickle jars.) full of M&M's. He prefers the peanut ones but I prefer the peanut butter ones. Mmmmm..... Of course right now, I don't eat any of them as I am trying to lose weight and feel that is very important right now.
Let's see, what else . . . I need to nurture our relationship! I don't do nearly enough to nurture our relationship, sad to say. I need to find ways to become his best friend again. We were once . . . I remember the first or second year we were married, we'd argued about something and I was fuming mad. I decided to go for a walk and cool down. He finally found me, sitting on the curb crying . . . I got in the car and proceeded to tell him that I was very mad at him and what made it worse was that I needed to go talk to my best friend about it but HE was my best friend and I couldn't talk to him about it because I was mad at HIM. LOL It is funny now but it was a miserable feeling then. Of course, he hugged me and we got it fixed, whatever it was. But sad to say, as time as gone on, we are not as close as we once were.
You know, Cindy said that it takes work and she is right about that. There is never a time to sit back and relax thinking you've arrived. I realize that while I was just sitting back, the current was separating us little by little.
She said things like, wear what he likes . . . ask him what he wants you to wear. Respect him; make him a priority; put God first; check with him before accepting new responsibilities, and such.
Well, my sweet darling has decided that he is tired and ready for bed. So, I must sign off now.
Thanks so much for sharing. You are making really good points and I am so happy you are getting so much out of Cindy's weekend. You remind me of a few things I can do to improve my relationship with my blessed hubby. I love your "talking to your best friend" story, I've been there! It is frustrating in an odd sort of way, but I don't think there is a better place to be. Hugs!
(Me and my dd, Tiffany on an easy to climb tree limb on vacation in VA in 2007.) These are my ramblings on homeschooling and whatever else comes to mind.
Counting Down
The Holidays are over and I'm not quite ready to start a new count down yet. Maybe I should start a counting up the number of days I've stayed on my "diet".
And when we got married, someone gave us a very large bottle (I think it must've been one of those gallon pickle jars.) full of M&M's. He prefers the peanut ones but I prefer the peanut butter ones. Mmmmm..... Of course right now, I don't eat any of them as I am trying to lose weight and feel that is very important right now.
☺ Feb. 16, 2008 - Good Points