Reforming Motherhood

Jul. 23, 2006 - A question answered

Greekhoneybee  asked some good questions in her comment to my post about the blessings of covenant worship.  I thought it would be neat to have my husaband Mike answer her question and he was happy to do so.  After reading his answer, I think that it warrents repeating instead of remaining in the comments only where it might get missed.  So here is Mike response:

 

Posted by Mike (Amy's husband)
With regards to the idea of having your daughter with you in worship, I will assume that since you are here in this blog community, you are inclined toward the idea of homeschooling.. I would suggest to your husband that the same reasons to homeschool during the week also apply on Sunday. Who do you want to shape your daughter's character? Who is best fit to be a model in worship--you and your husband or a bunch of other four-year-olds? For Amy and me, homeschooling is all about being single biggest influence on your child's character. As far as that mission goes, Sunday is no different than any other day. I would appeal to your husband's desire to be consistent in parental choices (I assume he has that desire).

Just be warned that it may not bear immediate fruit, so you can't just decide to have your kids with you in worship because it will "work better." It won't immediately be better. You have to be convinced of the decision from a philosophical as opposed to a utilitarian position. It's a commitment to a long term commitment. You may even direct him to this discussion so he can see the fruit of others who have gone this route w/ worship.

I hope that helps!

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Jul. 26, 2006 - :)

Posted by Sweetie
That was very well said - thank you for sharing it!
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Jul. 26, 2006 - Untitled Comment

Posted by bobby
"Who do you want to shape your daughter's character? Who is best fit to be a model in worship--you and your husband or a bunch of other four-year-olds? For Amy and me, homeschooling is all about being single biggest influence on your child's character."

Yes, but. The purpose of church isn't solely for shaping your child's character. The primary purpose of church is to worship God and that end can be served in more than one way. Having the whole fambly in the service may best serve that end - I'm somewhat inclined to believe so - but I remain unconvinced.

And, also, is there no room for delegation? I ask rhetorically, of course, since if you allow your children to read any book that you didn't write you are, to some extent, delegating their instruction to someone else. And if said instruction is coming from "a bunch of four-year-olds" than surely you aren't delegating wisely. But you have three kids - at home, is A's character being molded by you or by "a bunch of two-year-olds," i.e., his brothers? Likewise, a Sunday school teacher that runs a good class will exert more influence over a child's character than the other kids.

-bob
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