The way to Heaven is ascending;
we must be content to travel uphill,
though it be hard and tiresome,
and contrary to the natural bias of our flesh.
Jonathan Edwards
~ 2008 Goals ~
Family Goals
1. Purpose to be home more in 2008.
2. Love one another, prefer one another, be kind and tender-hearted to one another.
(Family Verse for 2008, Ephesians 4:32 "Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you."ESV)
Personal Goals
(Revised from last year)
1. Read my Bible and pray every day possible.
(Growing in grace to do what I know I am called to do, pursue holiness,diligence.)
2. Seek out tangible ways to encourage others as often as possible.
3. Purpose and pray to eat only when I am hungry, stopping when I am full, not stuffed!
Sep. 24, 2008~ What do you say? ~
A good friend of mine, a godly woman, has come to me with a situation that I do not feel qualified to handle. In fact, I told her that if it were me, I'd be in counseling with a godly focus.
Almost two years ago her husband had a stroke during heart surgery at the age of 33 or so. He's been on disability and working part time since then. Their troubles started long ago, however. He professed to be a Christian, but seems to have fallen away, having no desire to go to church or pray or read the Bible. I know that she has some blame in all of this, too, but I don't know the whole story, just her side. Anyway, they have 3 homeschooled children and a lot of stress in their marriage.
Yesterday she told me she is thinking about a divorce. He wants to move far away and she doesn't want to. It's a long story. He wants to go be near his family. She hates his family who are all non-believers. Anyway, it is a hard situation. All I could think was to tell her to go to her church and ask for help. I've told her this for years and she never has. I don't know what else to do. She has entered into the "for worse" part of her vows and I know the Lord expects her to stick it out. The world has another opinion. I just don't think it is the answer.
Yes, prayer and godly counseling, that's what I would recommend too. It's hard all the way around, but once vows are said, yes she should stay with him. I pray that maybe he'll seek the Lord in this also, and that as she seeks the Lord, she will have His comfort and peace.
JoAnn
I know this comment is kinda late... sorry. I think you gave her good advice. As you know, I have been divorced and was a single mom. Let me tell you, being a single mom is HARD!!! Besides the fact that just not getting a long is NOT a good reason for divorce, it really is a very poor reason to become a single parent. She may not want to be near the inlaws, but you may want to ask her if she really wants to send her kids away for the entire summer to those inlaws and have NO control over what happens. Her husband will be granted visitation. It's pretty much a given now days. If he proceeds to move away, the courts may give him the entire summer with the children (in HIS home). She will have NO control on how often they see his family during this time. There are of course a LOT of other problems with being a single parent also. That is just the tip of the iceberg.
Leviticus 20:26 says, "You must be holy because I, the LORD, am holy. I have set you apart from all other people to be my very own." This blog is my place to remember this journey I am on and God's goodness to me. I am glad you are here. Welcome.
