Mar. 15, 2007 - Do him Good and not Evil
I write this advice today because I have my own struggles with this one. In Proverbs 31:12 it says, " she does him good and not evil all the days of her life." This is such a powerful verse to read and then try to live by. Basics: Don't kill, mame, harm your husband. I can do that, it is the other I struggle with because anything not good and uplifting to your husband is Evil. Example: Talking about him behind his back, back talking him, demeaning him to your children, discouraging him, dishonoring him, snagging the last cookie, talking down to him, nagging him, and the list goes on.
My current struggle is getting my husband off to work in the AM with a smile. I did well at this for awhile, packing his lunch, making his coffee, and fixing his breakfast, of course sending him off with a big hug and kiss. Since the baby has been born he has sometimes left the house with none of these things so I began fixing at night but that is not working. I hear the alarm and want him to hop out of bed so I am not disturbed. SELFISH! Then I nag about getting up or being quiet or turn the light off I am doing him EVIL. I have in those AM hours the ability to make or break my husbands day and am doing a poor job. This is a reminder to me that I am to do him good and not evil, regardless of what I want, all the days of his life.
I also realized lately that my children hear these negative things I am doing to my husband and it is affected their attitudes. I may be the only time I am negative to hubby, only 5 or 10 minutes but they display my attitude throughout the day. I am committing to work on this problem because it will definitely make me feel better, make hubby happy, and give my children a better example. Amazing how one small tidbit of wisdom can effect so many areas of ones life.
Comments
Mar. 15, 2007 - Untitled Comment
Posted by sajolley
Awareness and conviction of our sin is always the first step. Praise God that He has brought this to your attention. With a baby, your rest is so important, but when we, as wives, become selfish with this coveted time, we begin to slip (speaking from experience).
amanda
Mar. 16, 2007 - Untitled Comment
Posted by youngmommy
Jess~
Wow! I fail, every day, in this particular department. Mornings are so hard for me... It's definitely easier for me to do my husband good later in the day!
Thank you so much for this important reminder. I have been convicted to do better!
May. 1, 2007 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Anonymous
What a wonderful reminder - may we all continue to choose God's best for us and our dh's - He will give us the strength and grace to be to them what He desires us to be. ~Colleen~
Jan. 29, 2009 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Kristal
I know what you mean. I relaize this is an older post. But I am struggling with this as well. I just wish I knew of a way to do it all!! And not get exhausted. It seems everytime I pray about it the next thing I know I am getting tested and fail AGAIN. I have been appologizing to my sweet wonderful husband but I know that does not make it better.
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