To encourage Sisters in Christ to rejoice in their femininity and relish it as a blessed gift from God. Regardless of age or marital status, only by understanding and embracing our femininity Biblically, and renouncing all that is masculine can be find peace and fulfillment in this life. Only by praising God for being fearfully and wonderfully made, can we find rest for our souls, after salvation. http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/meahruby/ en-us Homeschool Blogger Mon, 17 Aug 2009 19:18:00 -0500 Mon, 17 Aug 2009 19:18:00 -0500 It has been a long while since I last posted anything to this blog. Often I have trouble logging in-not sure if it is my computer or homeschool blogger-which puts a damper on trying to post here.  I have another blog  here that I am unable to log into at all. These troubles seem to be forcing me to make a choice that I don't particularly wish to make.   Also, it is difficult to have multiple blogs on different hosts. IF I move on, I will be sure to let you know where to find these writings and others which I plan to add in the near future. http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/meahruby/718226/ Mon, 17 Aug 2009 19:18:00 -0500 http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/meahruby/718226/ Today I am thinking about masculine and feminine clothes, attitudes, gesture and body language etc. The lines of gender have been so blurred that they are almost non-existant. If you have stopped by before, you know that I am a people watcher. Last weekend while we were out shopping, we noticed something--that all the women were wearing jeans. Where have all the LADIES gone?????   Feminism and unisexism has made it almost impossible to be a lady.  Besides the fact that many girls grow up being taught ERA "theology", their only picture of femininity is perverted. They think being feminine means using "feminine wiles", and dressing like a harlot. That is what the feminists say. Feminism cannot discern between feminine and sexy. They are the sexist ones, not only men. To catch a glimpse of real ladies, at least in appearance, we have to return to another time. We have to go back to the late 19th century. I am by no means advocating that we all return to donning horse hair bustles, 8-12 skirts in layers, and whalebone corsets to draw our stomach in to a 12 inch waist. But I am wishing we could return to a time and place where men and women had their own roles and duties, and seldom crossed the line between them; and era when from a great distance one could determine the gender of who they saw. Even in Biblical times this was possible. The story of Ruth bears this out for us. Read it for yourself. The argument many make against, ok, I'll say it, women wearing pants and dressing like a man, is that in Bible times men and women both wore robes. They will cite scripture which talks about Aarons skirt to prove their point. Here is where I have trouble with that argument. First in Deut. God makes it clear that men and women are not to wear the apparel of the opposite sex. The question before us today is what is mens clothes and women's clothes? Pretty much we can all agree that a man in a dress/skirt is simply wrong, in our society today. Men have been wearing some for of pants for centuries. Even in Old Testament times the high priest was instructed to wear breeches under his robe. So the dispute is not about whether or not a man should wear a dress. Even a very mannish color would still look wrong.  SO ladies, what does that mean to the girls?  Are pants for men? If so, what does that mean to you and I? Can you honestly say that pants, at least most of the pants on the market and in womens closets today, do they make a woman look feminine?   http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/meahruby/627151/ Tue, 2 Dec 2008 16:24:00 -0600 http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/meahruby/627151/ Just a quick note to let you know that I have decide to keep this blog up and running. I will be combining several other blogs into one or 2 other places, however there are those who prefer reading here on homeschoolblogger over other blog sites. I will post links to my other blogs as well, but this blog will remain exclusively about being feminine women.  My others vary in topics from post to post.  Thanks for your support http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/meahruby/580686/ Tue, 26 Aug 2008 19:43:00 -0500 http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/meahruby/580686/ Does anyone ever sing that anymore???  Maybe it is because we are all programmed to see rules as restrictions instead of guidelines for life. Just look at society in general, there are NO real rules. Drive by a funeral home and check out how the mourners and those who are coming to pay their "respects" are dressed. I almost pointed my fingers at some "mourners" on more than one occassion, different people to be sure, because they emerged wearing jeans with the inseam at their knees, athletic style tank tops, cut off shorts...and the girls...oh dear! Even a MINI DRESS would have been more proper. Watch the guests leaving a wedding and you'll see the same casual attire. No one wants to dress, really. It is commonplace in our area to go to the mall and see girls in pajama bottoms, tank tops (at least 2 sizes too small), uncombed hair, and fuzzy slippers on their feet. The new one was seeing the plus size, over 50, mama strut into the mall weaing shorts with the waistband tucked under here sagging belly, and her top baring her navel.  HELLO!!! Hasn't anyone ever heard of a MIRROR!!!!!  Is it any wonder students fail, can't concentrate etc with all the crazy styles they wear these days. And just think, if they are dressing as I described for a solemn event, what do they wear for school????  Guys can't help but think the way they do, and the girls want the attention.  Golden rules no longer apply to schools, or anything else. A friend showed us a video clip from high school, public school. The children had their desks facing each other, were talking, and horsing around, oblivious to others in the room. I thought this was BEFORE class. Total shock: this was IN CLASS.  Hmmmmm  Rules are not to inhibit us. They help us respect other people. They make us more pleasant to be around. They give us a framework of right and wrong. Even if you don't agree with a rule, it shouldn't be done away with. Most people don't want to go the speed limit, even with soaring gas prices, but we obey the law bcz there are consequences if we don't. And it isn't just getting a ticket, how 'bout accidents, how 'bout death...not just your own, but maybe your passengers, or a pedestrian, or someone in the car you plow into at 80MPH.  The saddest part is that we also do not dress up for church anymore. I'm not advocating donning wedding attendant level clothing, but khaki and denim skirts, t shirts, polo shirts, are pushing the envelope the other way. We need to dress as daughters of the king. If you were invited to meet a Queen or King, or the President, in person, would you throw on your everyday outfits--hoping no-one will notice the pills, stains, etc  OR would you buy a new dress, sew a new one, or peruse the local thrift store for something special????  If you'd go to alot of trouble, so to speak, to meet another man/woman, why wouldn't you do the same to honor the LORD?  SUNDAY BEST was a "rule" for reason.  When you look better, dress your best, it is reflected in your smile, your eyes shine, and you might even have a little spring in your step because you don't have to think about the stains, or fuzzy pills, dressing up takes your focus off thinking about what people are thinking about you, in a bad way.  (I realize this can go the other extreme w/young girls/teens especially, but the practical mammas among us need to take stock of how we look and how we make our HUSBANDS look.) A married woman who can afford better and chooses to wear shabby/shoddy, ugly, drab, worn,....first of all makes her husband look like he doesn't manage the family finances well and therefore is unable to provide for her and any children, and second your husband should keep his eyes on YOU, so your task is to dress in manner that keeps his eyes and thoughts on your, that he can't keep his eyes off you.  Forget your figure flaws, and dress in colors your man likes, put on some pretty prints, or bright colors. All those drab colors, keep them for gardening, scrubbing floors, etc, but put on your lovely clothes, BUY or MAKE some if need be. The grand old days of women dressing feminine is gone, and we need to revive it in the body of Christ.  http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/meahruby/580679/ Tue, 26 Aug 2008 19:37:00 -0500 http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/meahruby/580679/ http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/meahruby/571967/ Fri, 8 Aug 2008 18:13:00 -0500 http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/meahruby/571967/ Dear Friends, I'm stil not sure what  want to do with my blogging.  It is difficult to diversify posts and yet make it easy to read.  And not everyone has children or homeschools, some aren't even old enough to be married yet.  With all my heart I want to help a many women and girls as i possibly can.    Right now I doubt that there is any simple solution to my dilemna, and I will jsut have to continue searching it out. In the meantime,  I will be posting here and on my other blogs. I'll put the links up for you in case you are interested in seeing my other blogs etc. Thanks for your support and all your prayers http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/meahruby/486307/ Sat, 23 Feb 2008 10:00:00 -0600 http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/meahruby/486307/ While researching another topic I was surprised to learn that ladies of by gone eras were taught to speak in a soft, high pitched voice.  In another book the author noted that women who speak softly are better able to keep the attention of their husbands when they speak because the man must lean close to or be near her and purpose to listen to hear what she is saying. In a way endearing herself to him and he to her. Just the nearness of him listening is an intimate moment that will prepare both for more intimacy later on. Girls and Women of the victorian era would often train their voices to be melodic and sweet.  Have you ever stopped to listen to the womens voices in your church? At the mall? In a factory?  Many a woman these days speaks in tones, and uses phases and wording that many of our grandmothers would be ashamed to hear.  Some would shame our granddads too.  Ruth Beechick, in one of her books has documented that our voice, physically, passes is or generated through our heart. It gives much more meaning to the words of Christ "out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh"  What does this mean to us?  Well, I suppose if we have a meek and quiet spirit, and our heart is righ twith the LORD, if we have embraced who we are in Christ, and how God has made us, if we are thankful to be women-created so by the Father, them our words and tone will reflect that.  Have you ever noticed how someone's voice changes when they are angry?  How about a mom or dad with their new baby?  Perhaps we need to practice some of the graces that were once commonplace but have lost their appeal with the rise of feminism. http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/meahruby/439322/ Wed, 5 Dec 2007 12:39:00 -0600 http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/meahruby/439322/ If you were to ask your husband, or your father, or your brother, or almost any man on the street, or in your church, what makes a woman feminine, what do you think he'd say? Aside from clothing that is, what makes a women feminine?  It is how she represents and presents herself to others. By this I mean her appearance and demeanor. There is nothing feminine about a woman who doesn't take care of herself physically. Mind you I am not talking about weight, though that might very well be a factor for some (I am one of those).  Aside from weight, women need to take care of their hair and skin.  It tickles me when my husband comments on the softness of my skin. I don't use alot of lotions or potions, but what little I do, helps keep my husband attracted to me. On the road to modesty so many have thrown what makes us feminine out the window. Certainly there are scriptures about painted eyes, and NOT adorning the outward woman, but am I the only one who believes that the context was putting a premium on the outward was the reason. Ladies, we too are ambassadors of our Saviour Jesus Christ. While modesty is important, so is presenting ourselves to the world in a way that does not make people look at us and think we look weird. If you were an executive for a big company, I doubt that you would wear your dress all wrinkly and stained, to a board meeting. It goes without saying that you'd have every hair inplace, and every blemish covered.  As representative for Jesus, we should try to look our best all the time. Yes, even when scrubbing a floor, but I think God understands that.  One thing that sets women apart from men, besided biology, and dresses, is the use of makeup, fragrances, etc. I've noticed that when I wear pretty clothes, put on a little mascara, slather on some foundation to even our my skin tone, and spritz myself with some sweet smelling stuff, I FEEL MORE Feminine.  And when I feel more feminine, I carry myself in a more feminine way, I am more aware of my tone of voice and mannerism.  We can be modest and feminine, and that doesn't mean we have to throw away all the little things that make us feel girly, younge, and pretty.   It has taken me a long time to figure this out. I have gone the opposite extreme for a long time--no makeup or jewelry at all...and nothing pretty....just durable and modest.  But my husband misses the womanlyness of makeup, perfume, and jewelry. He likes me adorned with a modest PRETTY dress, but also some cheap pearls and a little color here and there to bring out my natural highlights makes him stop and stare at ME..not the woman walking down the street in her slinky dress and overpainted eyes! I want him to keep looking at me, and being attracted to me. In fact I don't know what I wouldn't do, within reason, to keep his attention.  That being said, I am putting a link to our AVON store here http://www.youravon.com/dleib  You will see my sons name on the website but that is because he is helping us with this on the money side.  Avon has expanded their products from cosmetics and fragrances to clothing-including lingerie, jewlery, health items, home decor, etc.  Take a peek please.  Please don't be offended by this post. If you are not a makeup type a gal, that is fine by me.   http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/meahruby/401634/ Tue, 2 Oct 2007 18:49:00 -0500 http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/meahruby/401634/ This posting will be brief, but I wanted to let everyone who stops by that I haven't forgotten you. Life in our family seems to be always blooming and growing and space (or time) for pursuits after daily chores are done is in short supply.  Since it has been such a long time, I do want to let you know that I am praying about combining all my various blogs into one. At the moment, I am trying to keep up 4, and failing miserably. If you happen to know how this could be done with ease, let me know. Our 2 weeks away from home, and having company on our schedule at various intervals the next few weeks has turned our usual routine into a memory.  Now my son is here so I must dash off.  Til next time! http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/meahruby/384460/ Mon, 3 Sep 2007 15:07:00 -0500 http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/meahruby/384460/ My Dear Friends, Just a little thank you for those who come by faithfully to read my thoughts on womanhood and the feminine spirit.  I am working to make strides that will allow me time to be faithful to this endeavor, instead of my haphazard postings at irregular intervals.   My promised posts on feminine apparel will be coming soon.  PS: at the end of July until Mid-Aug. I won't have internet access, and in Sept Missionaries are coming to visit us for the first time. They are on furlough from Sicily. Pray for the Galiotos and their ministry there and as they travel. They have been in Sicily for a long time.  PPS:  For those who are interested I will be started another blog where I can post interesting items and articles that don't relate directly to femininity. BUT I wholeheartedly believe that the problem within the body of Christ today is Women who do not realize that the way they live, act, dress, speak, etc is not feminine or at best is a feminized version of manliness.  Eeek..that sounds awfully close to SIN doesn't it.  That statement is not intended to be unkind. In fact, I think women today have been done a great disservice by many of their mothers and teachers, pastors, and peers. They have been convinced that the HAVE to be be tough to survive, and if they don't men will let them down. This is a HUGE misnomer. Only by women being womanly--soft, feminine, gentle and yet strong in spirit to withstand the trials of life, CAN THE MAN/MEN take up their roles and be MANLY MEN.  Like many ills of society that we as christians look upon with disgust in our eyes and hearts, people don't know better, no-one has taught them this or that is really wrong, no-one has ever told them NO you can't do.....  They have not idea what it means to have self control and to deny themselves immediate gratification-whether that is food, things, or pleasure.    http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/meahruby/343633/ Sun, 17 Jun 2007 15:04:00 -0500 http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/meahruby/343633/