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Thu, 24 Jul 2008 18:53:00 -0500

I need to work on my blog.lol I have no idea what to write most of the time, so I don't know if people even read my blog to be honest.lol

I was thinking maybe a schedule I see that on alot of other blogs but that would involve me setting up something I would never ever use.lol

Public school is starting in a few weeks! Can you believe it, I can't. When I was kid you didn't start till the day after labor day, so it is WEIRD.lol I need ot start formal school with my kids, but lately we have been focusing 100% on reading. I have decided I need to do that so I can get everyone reading. For some strange reason i feel like a failure if I don't get my kids reading fast enough.

My oldest is making huge strides, he is reading like a champ suddenly. And then Jonah well he is stubborn, he is learning though.lol

My church probley thinks I fell off the face of the earth, lately I have been sleeping in way to in to make it to church where we go, and there is an evening service down the street so we have been going there.lol It is funny because it is a more pregressive teen style mass. And we normal go to Latin mass so we are litterally going from one extreme to the other.lol But church is church as long as I make it and we get communion that is the most important part. I am so thankful to have an alternative if I sleep in.lol

And the pool the pool we are currently living at the pool. Or atleast dh and the kids are. I on the other hand feel HUGE and wore out most fo the time. I only have 10 more weeks then I will have a little wee one I can;t wait. But honestly somedays I wish Ididn't have to feel so pregnant.lol I am quickly running out of room, so I can't eat, I am hot and I am nautious most of the time.lol Soon nesting will kick in and I will have tons and tons of energy again and I will be able to run around with my crazy family. instead of being bored at home doing a crossstitch. The same crossstitch I have been doing for 2 years now.lol

I got a sewing machine for my birthday, so soon I will be posting all the cute wonderful things I have been making for the kids and I. I hope, fingers crossed.

I have also beenthinking about moving. I want to move to the OCEAN! So anyone know of any cool wonderful places that aren't a fortune to live at by the sea, yell.

poelm

Mon, 14 Jul 2008 19:13:00 -0500

You can raise a crop of babies on almost any land;
In fact, you need a little grit, and just a little sand.
And lots of love and laughter, to make them grow up strong,
Yet folks with lots of babies somehow seem to get along.

I don't say they are useful, quite, as cars and pigs and such,
But they're a grand crop in themselves, and worth ten times as much.
So don't forget the babies when you're planning for your farm -
A few about you underfoot won't do a bit of harm.

And when your hair is growing gray and years are growing long,
Your heart, instead of drying up, will hold a merry song,
For babies have a way with them of growing strong and tall
And make such dandy leaning posts as life's spring turns to fall!

Anonymous

Monday blogging

Mon, 7 Jul 2008 18:59:00 -0500

another post on subbmission

Thu, 3 Jul 2008 10:00:00 -0500

I am so glad I got a wonderful comment on this subject.

I saw yet another wife have a weird comment on subbmission somewhere. she said you should sumbmit to your husband as you would the Lord. WHAT! Ok one you should submit to the Lord above everything and anyone. People People what bible are you reading? Nowhere does God say to do that. Her infact says he is a jealous God and you should not have any Gods above him. Secondly who in the Bible does that? Seriously name one time someone sinned and it was OK because there husband told them to?

I can think of several times a husband sinned because he didn't listen to his wife. Like Pontius Pilate who's wife Said not to crucify him because of a dream. People seriously need to quit reading books on submission and forgetting to read the bible. And do a real bible study on the Women of the bible. They where not quiet little women, the bible is filled with Strong Women. And Women can Prophesy's I am sick of hearing that too. Over and Over again in the Bible God goes to both Men and Women. He talks to us both! Not sex over the other. This does not mean a Women is a Man, WE are very diffrent and need to remember that. But being diffrent doesn't mean we are less. Look at Mary, and Mary Magdelon, Look at Mary and Martha, Look at Anna.

We have a few stories where women mess up and we are supposed to take that we are to be quiet and blindly follow our husbands because they are smarter, and I am thinking as I hear this, what about all teh stories in which Men mess up? Does this make sense? Quit picking up these books of garbage and also quit listening to Women who need to pick up a Bible. Read your Bible! Nothing beats what is in a Bible. Listen to these Bible Studies you are doing with the Children and think.

I will never sin because my husband told me too. And most of the books I have read say DO NOT SIN! So it isn't the books, I have no idea where people come up with some comments I hear. Your husband is not God and trust me he probley doesn't want that resposibility. And he is not perfect. He is human. And he wants you to talk with him, listen to him and to stick up for yourself. Every since I have started saying no, or asking for help and also ignoring his comments. My marriage has transformed! It has turned from a bitter housewife and a husband who has not idea what to do to fix things. To a home where we both have a say, I have help, and we are on the same level. My kids are even changing for the better.

'warning controversial blog on motherhood

Tue, 1 Jul 2008 22:44:00 -0500

I am sure many of my friends will be upset about this blog. I am not to worried about it though. I am going to just say what has been on my heart lately. Which may sound feministic but I don't care.lol I am not a huge feminist either so this is weird.

I have been very very upset with my husband lately, and I am realizing I am the one who pathed alot of my own undoing. He is doing alot now to turn this around. ALOT! Now he is home but I need to say something about it. Not about my husband but about what happened. I was BRAINWASHED by alot of crazy talk by alot of friends and people online, about submission. To the point I was ruining myself my marriage and my own happiness trying to do EVERYTHING. And I am an IDIOT for letting it happen.

It started when I got pregnant with Clay, I was pregnant unmarried and told my DH, I said I am pregnant but if you don't want to stick around that is OK, I can do this. OK WAIT! HOLD UP! Society taught me this, a girl gets pregnant it is her fault and she should not trap the man. PTL my husband is a stand up man who said oh no, I am staying right here and helping. Next we had the baby, he was not holding him much, why well 1 I hogged him and 2, he was scared. Well so was I, who is not nervous about holding a newborn, there first newborn but instead of saying get over it, I held the baby, and thought it was cute. Next my DH didn't want to change diapers. WHO wants to change diapers? Instead of saying to bad, I changed EVERY diaper, because he was a man, and it was how it was supposed to be. My DH didn't change hardly any diapers the first 3 kids we had. Because I just did it, he didn't have to. now if I was in a situation where I could get out of diaper changing especially the poopy ones I probably would to. But I just thought it was cute. It isn't cute. Scott now changed diapers.

Next he didn't cook or do laundry because he worked and how dare he not come home to a spotless house, clean clothes, and a hot meal. Never mind the fact I was working all day also. I did this to pay for the fact I was a SAHM. Being a SAHM did not mean I was a slave, it met I was staying home to take care of the babies, but I spent majority of my time cleaning the house and cooking. I was an idiot like I said. I now know better.lol

And lastly I did all of this, to myself. When Scott started staying home with me I was FURIOUS at him for not helping out around the house, but being this little submissive doormat and doing it all, but mad underneath it all. And it was silly. I did it. I am the one who decided I could do it all on my own, because doing it all meant I was a good wife. That is WRONG! Being a good wife means asking for him, and not losing pride for asking. and admitting you can't do it all. Being a help-meet to your husband doesn't mean being his slave but helping him and also helping by not allowing him to miss out on the important aspects of fatherhood and being a husband.

Yes when your husband works you are going to have to do much more around the house,but on the weekends, why should you cater and let him lay around? I did and now he is home I realize all he missed out on. Being a father doesn't mean only getting to do the fun stuff. Fatherhood, involves dirty dishes, dirty clothes, diapers, reading and teaching children, and cleaning the mess. We mothers also have a very long work week. I know so many mothers who are EXHAUSTED on Monday from doing this. NOWHERE in the Bible does it say be a slave to your husband and do everything he says. This is the words of people outside of the bible. Before you go preaching maybe some of these women should do an intense bible study on the Women of the Bible. Mary did not go to Joseph and ask his permission.lol She told him what was up and then an Angel came and reassured him. Abigail didn't just sit and await her fate for her husbands stupidity she went to King David and said my husband is a fool and asked forgiveness from him, with out her husbands permission, infact against her husbands wishes. God didn't make us blind idiots, he made us with Brains for a reason. And many many many times Women are treated wonderfully in the Bible. Yet so many people try to say we should be silently slaves who just obey and if we aren't we are not following the bible. Now I think a husband is the head of the family, I think a woman should stay home with their kids. But we also have a voice and we need to use it and not allow this attitude to turn us into bitter women, and make our husbands LOSE out on so many important things in our lives.

So you don't have to do every dish, every load of laundry, change every diaper, feed every baby, etc to be a good wife. That is just ridiculous. You just have to be you. And saying something, asking for help counting on your husband is not going to make you a bad mother or wife either. Infact it will do the opposite. I am learning the more I trust in my husband the more I ask for his help and lean on him. The more I say NO I can't do it all you are going to have to help the better Mother and Wife I am becoming and the better Father and husband my husband is becoming also.

But at the same time you must allow things to go the way he is going to do them, the laundry will not get folded the way you want it, the kids may not do what you had planned for school. But this is a GOOD thing! Your way is not the only way, or even the right way. Your husband is going to do it his way. And who cares, help is help!

And trust me I have a husband who is not a pushover OK honey whatever you say husband. He was a sergeant combat medic for the Calvary, he has absolute no problem saying exactly what he feels on any subject.

getting into the swing of things

Wed, 11 Jun 2008 16:52:00 -0500

Well this has been an interesting week, I really really need to get to recording my homeschooling again.lol

WE have been getting up early every morning and heading to daily mass. It is so wonderful to have everyone back in a routene, up for 8:00 mass and then going to mass initself is such a wonderful way to start the day, Praising the Lord, and getting communion.

DH has decided he is reorganizing the whole house. With out any help from me, at all! Instead of being upset I am enjoying, it, I have so wanted someone to figure out how do reorganize everything with the baby comming. We got here pregnant and moved in quickly because I was 6 months pregnant, then I had Savannah and I am pregnant again, so I just haven't gottent to it, and i have litterally wanted to move everything out and then remove it back in. So he is doing it, and I am loving it. Except my house is TRASHED at the moment.lol But in a couple of weeks it will be so wonderful!

And I got my library fines paid off so I can use the library again! WOOHOO! I owed them 50.00! My cd player in my car ate a 30.00 cd, then I got sick with a ton of books out of the library and got 10.00 in fines then we have to add the restocking fee on the lost cd and that is what happened. so forever now I have had ot go with out but I paid it and i have a library again! WOOHOO! I put a ton of books on hold for july, and june. All the saint books off of Catholic Mosaic. And then a bunch on the founding of our nation for the 4th of July, and we are going to do a rabbit trail on gardening, because we planted a garden and I saw it on another blog and thought, woohoo! i can cheat and copy hers.lol Thankyou Elizabeth.lol

I have also been greatly inspired by 2 blogs. 2 blogs that hit me over the head and showed me how much I need to get working on. One is http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/Dell/ I hit it on go to random blog and WOW! I love this blog I have been reading it like crazy. I need to say hi over there.lol But this Mom is amazing. And she does a basket of books like we did before I lost the library.lol

Second one is this one I think this is Elizabeth from real learning, but I am not sure, I just found it today and I am hooked. http://ebeth.typepad.com/

Funny how blogs can give you wonderful idea's and encourage you so much. I wonder how Mothers did it before the internet.

I have also been living at the Pool. OK it is not a pool we bought season passes to the amusment park in our area, and 1 is a water park and I have been living at the water park. Honestly I like it so much more than a pool, the kids can touch in 90% of it.lol And they have more life guards andreally strict and have lifejackets that you are required to wear in alot of the area's. Which makes my life easier.lol Oh and if I need a break we go to the waterslides adn the kids go up and down up and down and I sit on the bench clapping, because i don't think I can do the water slides preggo.lol

Questioning myself

Sat, 7 Jun 2008 10:55:00 -0500

I used to belong to this homeschool group. I nolonger DO. PTL, they really upset me and since I didn';t know hardly anyone on it, it should have been a big deal, but I am still really hurt.

So here is my blog on the whole thing. I went to a rosary ralley where I sat next to this really rude person who yelled at my kids and ruined the whole experience for me. So when they asked how everyone did, I told them what happened. The result.

I got a few very very rude emails, that told me I was a terrible Mother, and if I punished my kids more and dressed perfectly and dressed my kids better I would neber recieve a rude comment on my family size or anything. I was told I was a heritic and that I would be doomed to hell for commeting a Mortal Sin, bashing the church for saying something negative about a church function. SERIOUSLY, none of these people knew me at all, had never met me and didn't even know how many children I had or their ages.

I got coments about keeping house, and it kept going back to spank spank spank. Seriously people spanking your kids doesn't make them perfect they are still kids. And beating my kids surely isn't going to help.

So basicly if I dress my kids perfectly, carry a paddle at all times dress perfectly and keep a perfect house noone will ever make a comment about family size or ever be rude to me. WOW! Really, can I fall out of my seat in hystarical laughter? Because nothing I do will ever be good enough for everybody. Not because I am this terrible person that is just life, PERIOD, that is how life is. And any normal sane homeschooling Mom knows this, I mean spanking is a debate, imunizations, child birth, and even what type of bread you eat can cause issues with some moms.lol

But this was just rude. I am not used to being told I was going to burn in hell, but for some reason the week before I was told I was awful for using Charlotte Mason, a few months before that, I was told the websters dictionary should be burned and the weekend before my post I was told I was a mortal sinner because all my friends aren't Catholic and a good friend is Jewish.

So I left the group of nuts. Not all of them just to mnay for my taste.lol

but now I am letting these Crazy homeschoolers get to me, BIG time. AndI promise to make it stop now.

No mykids aren' perfect, and you know what I do not care. Because they are children and noone is perfect. But they aren't awful either.

Yes my kids are a bit hyper, one I have 3 boys 8, 5, and 3. And two they are HEALTHY! theyhave energy and like to explore and climb trees and be boys. I am proud of the fact my children have lots of energy and are healthy and even hypey and very smart. I would rather that than sickly quiet children who just sit there.

Nope my house is not perfect! Who's house is perfect? My laundry is normally caught up, dishes are normally all done. the beds get made most mornings and I do clean my home. My house does not look like it belongs in a magazine and I doubt it ever will and that is OK because it is a real house I live in adn can explore and I am to busy enjoying life to worry about decorating. And yes I amnot super organized WHO CARES! I don't.

nope my marriage isn't perfect, but it is mine, my dh and I do fight like cats and dogs at times, but you know what that is marriage, adn we are always together, when you live with someone and you are constantly together you are going to fight. And frankly it is noones buisness.

Yes my kids are mouthy. they don't cuss but they have no problem giving there opinion. And I am ok with that. If you don't like it it is a good thing they aren't your kids. I want to know what my kids think and feel adn why. they should be allowed to express themselves.

And yes sometimes I do something stupied, wow I am a humanbeing and once again this is ok, that is sort of the whole point of life, to learn and grow and not be perfect.

And yes there are times I have things on my shirt and my kids do to, wow we eat, it is amazing we actually cook prepare and eat food and real food that can be a little messy. And yes so does my baby who can wipe her food on me when she is done because there are times I miss some when wiping her down. This is because I wear and carry my babies most of the time. I guess if you live in a world of fastfood and processed foods you don't experience messes, because well french fries and hamburgers aren't messy, and if you don't wear your babies are carry them around all day, you don't get things rubbed on your shirt. And I stay home with my family everyday so I get messy being around kids all day.lol And frankly I have a very healthy happy loving baby and I am very attached to her and would rather have a dirty shirt and a Savannah than be dressed to the nines and no savannah.

So because I am a natural mother and spend lots of time with my kids, I am human, my kids are human intelligent and healthy and we are on a good diet, that makes me a bad mom?lol Because I don't go to the club with my girlfriends and have a night off I am weird and don't wear designer clothes I am also a bad mom.

SERIOUSLY I think I am the good mom! my sloppy clothes, messy home on a normal day, my sloppy kids, and the fact I am not perfect makes me the best mom in the whole wide world. And if you don't like me, well so what. I am not that worried about it, I didn't worry about it when I was a kid or a teen why would I be freaked now?

And frankly my kids look nice when the time calls for it, we are not sloppy for church, or family pictures or events with lots of people. I try to keep everyone clean and neat. But well they are kids and I am human. I guess I could be like society and work to buy the designer clothes, have my kids in daycare and have a nanny.

The worst part of the whole ordeal 2 of the very rude comments came from homeschoolers that have a nanny both parents workfull time and they live in a minimansion and have a cleaning lady. And I got to thinking if I was rich, with a cleaning lady, nanny my house would be spotless 24-7 also and my kids would be dressed perfectly because I could afford it. But considering I am normal, in a tiny home and we can't afford new clothes constantly.lol YEP not going to happen.lol

I mean a nanny alone but then I would be having someone else raise my kids and I would not be experiencing all I do everyday. NOPE not for me.lol

And even if I could afford it I doubt I would ever buy designer clothes. They are just not me. I am a jeans and tanktop type of girl.lol

Busy Busy Week!

Sat, 7 Jun 2008 10:24:00 -0500

Well this week has been cub scout day camp so Clay and scott have gone everyday. I miss them but am enjoying a little break with only 3 kids. Yesterday we took off adn went to see Dinosaurs Alive. It was so so neat! my camera was DEAD so we didn't get ANY PICS.

but we had a blast. It is a live show where the dinosaurs are lifelike and look REAL and run around on stage. Really really neat. Then we left and went to the waterpark by our house. We have been living there, we have season passes. This time we mainly stayed in a pool area and chilled, ok didn't chill so much but anyways it was fun. Savannah LOVES the water. she tries to drink it all. Clay finnally got to do the waterslides. School starts on Monday adn we are doing more of a CM approach in the way we do school, I want it all done by noon! no joke everyday so we can go out and do alot of unschooling. I need a new planner on how I record also I am going to start recording more liek unschoolers do than what I have been doing.

But with Clay'sl learning issues I am not sure if we can unschool reading and writing. he has dyxlexia pretty bad so this is going to be a subject we have to push him in. Scott is taking over though, considering Scott also has dylexia.lol As for math the boy LOVES math so that is a toughone, he wants begs to do that, science, and everything else everyday.lol

Jonah though I am not so worred about the boy is ready to READ! He has been for a while it is just well he is just starting kindergarten so I am not going to feel guilty.

Now Adam he isn't ready for anything but having fun.lol

I also found this

Thu, 5 Jun 2008 08:38:00 -0500

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d9kH4Mlx1HY

WOW!!!! This is so beutiful and so sweet. I am showing the boys this tonight. This is something every pregnant woman should watch, it is just so innocent and sweet and loving.

WOW!

Thu, 5 Jun 2008 08:24:00 -0500

Yesterday I was reading for the Childrens Sake which is one of my favorite books. And I was reading one of the most important thing Charlotte Mason teaches Children are people. They are smart and thinkers and individuals and should be treated as people and not less inferior beings on the Earth. They don't need dumbed down books or twaddle. And they understand more than we will ever realize.

Then this morning I saw this.... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zCdZwitrNoY&feature=user

WOW! All I have to say is WOW! This child gets it, he gets something I myself have trouble grasping. This child in this call is exactly why I have chosen to homeschool why I try so hard. I want my kids to get it. Get why get how. And this childs voice is just so honest.

When people try to kick the kids out of church, or give them glaires for being kids. Remember they are actually listening and they are learning.

And you know what if you listen to a Child I bet you will learn things no adult could ever teach. Like when Clay left confession and said wow my soul is as white as snow. Or this child. Or when Jonah said God is the most beutiful thing EVER, I mean look at this world, he made THAT!

Yep maybe children should be teaching us a thing or two and not the other way around.