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The homebirth of Abigail Calista Anne

Thu, 15 Jan 2009 11:04:00 -0600

I know it has been a few months since Abbi's birth but I wanted to share her story with you all anyway. I had to put blogging way down on my list of priorities since Abbi's birth last August. Abbi needed lots and lots of mommy care and then Christmas with five littles left very little "free time". I'm not complaining though! It has been a very blessed few months!

Be advised, the following post is "girls only" ;).

   The morning of August 28th we were up early and on our way to what I hoped would be my last appointment with our midwife who lived about an hour away. I was already slightly overdue and anxious to deliver since SC has legislated how overdue you can be and still have a homebirth no matter how well things are going. On the way I mentioned to Lee that I was having "different" contractions. I had been contracting for weeks just like I had with Andrew (aren't you all glad I saved you that drama this time ;)) but these were different, they really felt like the real thing.
   At the appointment I was given the awesome confirmation that an infection I had been battling for weeks was finally responding to all of the garlic, apple cider vinegar, blueberries and cranberry supplements I had been taking. Whew, that was rough but I was very determined to spare both Abbi and I the ill effects of antibiotics unless they were truly needed and I felt such accomplishment when I finally got through it naturally :). While she was measuring my tummy she felt a contraction and all of a sudden the conversation turned from how great we were doing to how soon it was going to be, great news to an overdue mommy's ears ;). While she tried to not get my hopes too high it was pretty obvious she thought it would be sooner rather than later.
   We left and while part of me just wanted to go home and sleep most of me knew that I would just sit and wait for labor to start if we went home so we stuck to our original plans and went grocery shopping to refill our cupboards before Baby's arrival.  By the time we got to the natural foods store I knew this was the "real" thing, it was almost torture to climb in and out of our 15 passenger van! After we left there we went and got something to eat and stopped by Lee's store. I don't think I said two words to anybody while we were there because by that time I was really uncomfortable. We went home, cleaned the house and started walking. As we were all getting ready to walk Lee ended up in conversation with our next door neighbor who happens to work for the FBI, Lee told him we were expecting our baby to make an appearance that night and we were having the baby at home. He thought that was pretty neat and offered to escort us to the hospital with his blue lights on the off chance a transfer was needed. While I didn't expect a problem I thought the offer was pretty neat :). About ten'o'clock that night I called my parents to give them some notice. While a part of me was worried that I was putting everyone on call for nothing I was almost sure I would have a baby by morning. About midnight Lee told me it was time to call everyone. I was still worried about getting everyone here and then having to send them home, it is one thing to make the thirty minute drive to the hospital for a false alarm, it is another to have five different people driving from thirty minutes to an hour and thirty minutes to your home from four different directions for a false alarm! Lee was worried about having to deliver a baby alone ;). I was so glad he convinced me to call because while I was on the phone with my midwife I had some doozies and they immediately dropped from every six'ish minutes to every three! I told her I was afraid of having her drive all that way for nothing but she could tell from over the phone that it was time ;). The midwives assistants lived closest and arrived first. I had a couple of really good contractions and then they got a lot more manageable and spread out for a few. I was starting to feel a little silly but the reprieve only lasted for a few contractions and then they kicked into high gear. When our midwife checked me just before 3 in the morning I was only at a 4! I was sooo disappointed! I knew I had been "working" all day and I was only at a 4?! My midwife suggested I get in the tub to help with the pain, which was quite intense by now. I came out to talk to my parents a little bit who had arrived in the meantime and after one more contraction I decided I needed some relief now! I got in the tub which helped quite a bit and I was even able to relax to the point of almost sleeping for a little bit. Lee sat and held my head the entire hour and a half I was in the tub because that was the only way I felt truly comfortable, he's my hero :). About an hour later I started "losing it". I couldn't imagine what was still in store and I was very tired! What is it about my children and laboring at night ;)?! About the time I had convinced myself (with Lee's encouragement) to just stay calm I started trembling all over and feeling very "pushy"! Only one and a half hours ago I was only at a four so I was thinking I had several hours left, feeling "pushy" caught me greatly off guard. I told Lee and then after just one more contraction I was begging him to help me get out and to go get the midwife (who also thought I had many hours left and knew I wanted to be kind of alone so she was out taking a nap)! I found out later that Lee didn't exactly believe me ;). He thought I may have just hit that "wall" I hit every time. He went out to the living room and told one of the assistants what was going on and then came back by himself. When he came back and I found out the midwife wasn't coming right then I started to panic ;). Lee went and got the midwife's assistant and after just one more contraction she flew into gear ;). One thing that hit me as so awesome with the home birth was how everyone trusted me ;). When I said the baby is coming they didn't say, "Well, maybe, let's check just to be sure...". Those exams during transition are excruciating and I didn't have to go through any, yay :)!!! I had had many conversations with my midwife about how the "pushing" stage was terrifying to me, I have given myself up for dead every time, until this time. She had spent a lot of time talking to me about it, praying for me and sharing bible verses with me during our prenatal visits. Isn't that neat :)?! It wasn't easy by any stretch of the imagination but it was amazing compared to past births! No one screamed at me to "push! push! push!", no one told me to "get mad at the pain" or to hold my breath. I have this coping mechanism of saying something repetitive, when the going gets rough I find a phrase and repeat it over and over and... ;). Hey, it works! It usually ends up being something like, "Lord, help me" ;). And he did :). He sent some awesome and talented women to support me in labor, he sent my mother who stood in the hall and interceded for me through the worst of it, he designed my body to do this work and most importantly he sent my dear husband who is an unbelievable source of strength and comfort for me when things get tough. After just 22 minutes of "not pushing" and my water breaking on it's own (a first for me), Abigail Calista Anne was born. I will forever treasure the look on Lee's face when he got to announce that the baby, unbeknownst to us until that moment, was a girl :). One of the first things Lee said was, Bri is going to have so much fun. Lee had spent the whole pregnancy telling Bri he just "knew" that the baby was a boy and she kept telling him she was going to think it was so funny when the baby was born and turned out to be a girl ;). And she has had fun with it ;). The cord was cut minutes later instead of immediately to be sure that baby got as much out of the umbilical cord as possible but it was cut fairly quickly because she had a very short cord. Her cord was tied with a cotton string, it was sooo cute but I did think as she was tying it on, "I wonder what the pediatrician is going to think...". He didn't actually say anything about it, I think he is just used to us doing things pretty counter-culturally by now ;). I nursed baby for a while and everyone just sat around and talked about what a great birth that was and what a beautiful baby Abbi was, though at that time we hadn't named her yet :). Lee went in to wake up the children and found Bri already awake and bouncing at the end of the bed in her excitement ;). Andrew wasn't quite sure what to think, he loves her to pieces now though :). After we all had had the chance to love on our baby a good bit our midwife and the assistants starting weighing her and cleaning her up. While they did clean her up they didn't actually give her a full bath and all of that good vernix was eventually rubbed in and she had the smoothest skin of any of our babies, ever. She never got "flakey" like they all have before. I will never allow a bath soon after birth again, I loved her silky soft, smooth skin :). The midwife and the other ladies left at about nine and Lee and I collapsed in our bed and snuggled with Abbi and had a good nap while my parents watched the big children until later that afternoon. While I was pretty stiff and sore I felt sooo much better than I have ever felt after a birth before! God answered some major prayers when I had no tearing or stitches, just a couple little "skid marks". I have never gotten through a birth without pretty extensive stitching, it was awesome to not have to go through that this time :)!!!

I know that not everyone can birth at home and some situations do require a hospital and I would be so thankful to have a hospital available to me in those instances but this is definitely the way for me and I think it is the way for a lot more women if they truly knew the difference. Just yesterday I was snuggling Abbi, kissing her sweet little toes and making her giggle on my bed in the very spot she was born and the wonder of it hit me anew. This has been an awesome and amazing journey and I pray the Lord allows us the privilege to welcome a new little one into our home, from the moment of birth, again someday :).

Thank you Lord for your good gifts :).

Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning. ~James 1:17

Abbi being weighed in a special baby sling scale...

Abbi...

One of those moments that makes you smile :)

Fri, 19 Dec 2008 13:21:00 -0600

Something Bethani told me yesterday:
"Mommy, the Bible says that Jesus was in Bethany. I love that!".

"Now when Jesus was in Bethany, in the house of Simon the leper," ~Matthew 26:6

More Duggar News...

Fri, 19 Dec 2008 12:01:00 -0600

The Duggar family is celebrating the birth of little Jordyn-Grace, what a neat Christmas present :)!

Thanksgiving 2008

Tue, 16 Dec 2008 15:11:00 -0600

... thy children like olive plants round about thy table. ~Psalm 128:3b

No Compromise!

Thu, 30 Oct 2008 16:03:00 -0500

From "Doug's Blog"...
"...we have aimed our arrows where they can be most strategic and effective. If Bible-believing Christians were struggling with whether or not they should support Barack Obama, we would aim there, but that is not the case. And in point of fact, our macro concern is far less for the outcome of the election, and far more with the conscience of the Christian community. Christians are not compromising over Obama, but they are over McCain and Palin. Hence our emphasis. When Christians call feminism godly—we have lost our moral compass. When Christians say that a candidate is pro-life who funds and favors some baby murders—we have conceded the debate, sold our souls to partisanship, and mortgaged our children’s freedoms on the alter of temporary political expediency. What shall it profit a generation if they gain the whole presidency, but lose their soul?"
Read the rest here.
You'll find a sanctity of life voter guide here.

See Chuck Baldwin's uncompromising pro-life stance here.

Vote for Baldwin!

Tue, 28 Oct 2008 15:15:00 -0500

Click here to see why we will be casting our vote for Chuck Baldwin next Tuesday :)!

Here is what Ron Paul has to say about voting third party.

Moreover thou shalt provide out of all the people able men, such as fear God, men of truth, hating covetousness; and place such over them, to be rulers of thousands, and rulers of hundreds, rulers of fifties, and rulers of tens: ~Exodus 18:21

Why we will NOT be voting for McCain

Tue, 28 Oct 2008 12:18:00 -0500

While McCain could be an "able" leader in some respects, I am convinced that he would not lead us in the way we should go. A McCain administration would be four more years of the same. A slow, and thereby in my view even more dangerous, decent into more socialist policy, more loss of liberties and more ground lost to the culture of death.
Proclaiming a baby is human from the moment of conception and yet standing for embryonic stem cell research shows a less than healthy fear of God.
While I don't know of any specific lies from McCain I do feel that his whole campaign has been a bit deceptive. He is trying so hard to look pro-family and pro-life and I would argue that he is neither pro-family or pro-life.
As far as being covetous, he voted for the same socialist bail out that Obama did and I have heard nothing about a desire to eliminate the welfare state of America.

In addition there is the issue of McCain's obviously biblically disqualified running mate.

Sarah is not an able man.*
Women should not usurp authority over men.**
Sarah should be operating in obedience to her own husband not Cindy McCain's.***
Lastly, Sarah is her husband's help meet, he is not hers. He should not be at home holding down the fort while she is off slaying dragons.****

*Moreover thou shalt provide out of all the people able men, such as fear God, men of truth, hating covetousness; and place such over them, to be rulers of thousands, and rulers of hundreds, rulers of fifties, and rulers of tens: ~Exodus 18:21

**But I suffer not a woman to teach , nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.
For Adam was first formed , then Eve. And Adam was not deceived , but the woman being deceived was the transgression. Notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing, if they continue in faith and and holiness with sobriety. ~1 Timothy 2:12-15

***Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.~Titus 2:3-5

****And the LORD God said , It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept : and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, he a woman, and brought her unto the man. ~Genesis 2:18, 21&22

Why we will NOT be voting for Obama

Tue, 28 Oct 2008 11:13:00 -0500

His BLATANT disregard for human life, this is beyond horrific. How can any human (a FATHER nonetheless!) see it as acceptable to leave a tiny human to die a lonely and agonizing death of starvation, dehydration and/or lack of air supply simply so the mother and doctors won't be "inconvenienced"?!
At his own admission, there are certain questions of human rights that are "above his pay grade" to answer. That would lead me to believe that he is vastly under-qualified for the presidency, a role that would require such decisions from him.
His mission to "spread the wealth", which could also be titled his mission "to steal from some to give to others". I had quite the "light bulb moment" about his motivation behind this mission while listening to this interview with him from 2001 that everyone should hear.
Most importantly, we will not be voting for him because he is NOT biblically qualified according to Exodus 18:21*. It is quite obvious that he is definitely NOT an able man because he himself admits that he can not answer the simple question of when human rights begin for the tiniest humans in most need of protection. He does not fear God, if he did he would be way more worried about the wrath of God than the "inconvenience" of allowing an "almost aborted" baby to live. He is definitely not a man of truth, a few of the many instances he has lied have been all of the times he has tried to convince us he had a good reason to vote for infanticide. Lastly, he not only does not hate covetousness, he actually condones it on a national scale (remember his steal from you to make others richer mission?).

And that, unfortunately is all I have time for. Trust me, I could go on and on...

*Moreover thou shalt provide out of all the people able men, such as fear God, men of truth, hating covetousness; and place such over them, to be rulers of thousands, and rulers of hundreds, rulers of fifties, and rulers of tens: ~Exodus 18:21

My brother, my protector

Sat, 25 Oct 2008 11:12:00 -0500

And so it begins :).
Abbi has found her fist. This is a good thing because it is her first step to self-calming. On the other hand this is a not-so-good-thing because it has caused Andrew's blood pressure to sky rocket ;)! He thinks she's biting herself and every time he catches her doing it I hear, "No! No Baby!!! No!", with a tone somewhere between concern and sheer panic in his voice.
It is really quite cute :).

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Sat, 25 Oct 2008 11:03:00 -0500

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