Sagerat Scribbles

• Apr. 5, 2006 - Our Decision to Adopt Part 3

In Part 2 we had made the decision to adopt two foster babies. While it was determined that the parents should lose their parental rights, the procedure to do that turned into a two year process.

Boy 1's mother was now in prison, and she decided to fight having her parental rights terminated at a cost to the tax payers. She appealed each judge's decision until it went to the State Supreme Court.

In reality, this woman never stood a chance, she was in prison, and was getting into so much trouble she wasn't going to be paroled. It was just nerve wracking to have a court date set, and then have it postponed, then set again. We couldn't look into the future and say, "This is adoption day."

The parental rights of Boy 2's mother were much easier to terminate. However, because Boy 2 was so medically fragile, the mother's attorney tried to use that to his advantage and stated, "Since this child is going to die anyway, then just send him home with his mother."

I was sickened when I heard that. To say that a very sick little boy didn't deserve a happy life, even if it was going to be for a short time, just for the sake of keeping him with his mother, is to be against the best interest of the child.

If Boy 2 had been given back to his mother he would have died, she just didn't have the capacity to do what was needed. For the record, Boy 2 is now nine years old and extremely happy. He still has many challenges to face in his life, but he will get through them. He has us to help him.

That's what adoption is all about, the best interest of the child.

• Apr. 5, 2006 - How Neat!

Posted by joyfulhomeschool

I was just yesterday looking at a site for foster parents. I have never known if I could do it. I am so sentimental and afraid I would end up wanting to adopt all. I think the one other thing that would hold me back would be how it would affect my kids. Was it a hard transition for your other children? Thanks for telling your story! It is so inspiring!!

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• Apr. 5, 2006 - Untitled Comment

Posted by chickadee

i enjoyed reading your adoption story. thanks for posting those. i have often wondered if foster children have much chance to get adopted.

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• Apr. 5, 2006 - Untitled Comment

Posted by mamaduso

Amen. What a wonderful thing adoption is.
Susan

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• Apr. 5, 2006 - Wow!

Posted by redmom

What a great story, Tia! I'm glad things worked out for you guys!

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• Apr. 6, 2006 - Untitled Comment

Posted by nsremom

I just read all the installments, and hooray for you guys!!! You followed your hearts and God blessed you with two sons. Now your next installment should be answering all the questions us 'potential' foster moms have. I.E. How has it affected your daughters? What would you do differently. etc.

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• Apr. 6, 2006 - Untitled Comment

Posted by Kristal

Its great to see how the LORD worked in your life and even though you thought you wanted a girl, the Lord new that you would be getting boys! The Lord is all knowing and it just takes us to sit down a listen!! I think its wonderful that you adopted!! It takes very special people!!

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• Apr. 7, 2006 - Untitled Comment

Posted by Leigh2

I have so enjoyed reading about your adoptions! We are still debating becoming foster parents after we figure out our moving situation.

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• Apr. 7, 2006 - Thanks for sharing Tia!

Posted by Adrienne

I looked back in your archives and have read a bit about your adoptions already, but it was good to read about the beginning.

Our adoption will be final on April 18th!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am so excited, beyond words...Joshua will be ours forever now! You know I have a heart for foster adoptions and special needs adoptions, just like you!

The lawyer's comment is just outrageous! Praise God that the judge didn't listen!

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• Mar. 16, 2007 - Untitled Comment

Posted by drewsfamilytx

Thanks for sharing your story Tia! I don't know how I missed it the first time around...

My heart really wants to adopt from China. While the Korean part of me says Korea, I yearn for a little boy (or maybe girl) from China... To give a child hope in Christ and a future with endless possibilities...

My best friend is beginning to process of getting the paperwork and other things done to become a foster parent. It will be interesting to see how the process works for her...as well as a possible domestic adoption for her this fall.

We too would like to adopt a child that is younger than our youngest (who is 2). I think this would be easier for our current family dynamics b/t the boys. So I guess we'll see what God has planned for us! Domestic, China, sibling group, boy, girl???

Anyhow, I'm just going on and on now. Lots to think about...

Love,
Marsha

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• Apr. 7, 2007 - Untitled Comment

Posted by booknhome

Thanks for sharing your story. My husband and I are open to adoption, and your story helps us thinking about it.

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• Aug. 5, 2007 - adoption

Posted by http://highnotes.blogspot.com

Your adoption story is almost identical to ours! We too wanted to adopt forgein; but felt that there were kids here who needed a good home just as much.

Our son also has a lot of medical issues and we were told by doctors to no adopt him - he would be too much trouble. However, we felt God placed him in our home and it would be God - not our own choosing who would take him out of our home.

We now are working at controling seizures and therapy for his autism. I could not ever imagine life without him. God blessed our entire family the day he sent us Zak.

Thanks for sharing about your adoption journey. It encouraged my heart that I am not alone.

Jane

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