While taking my dose of daily reading over at Spunkyhomeschool, I was once again confronted with perplexing information about women who believe being a stay-at-home mom is akin to enslavement and abuse.  This just baffles me. 

Feminists want you to believe that you can't lead a fulfilling life if you don't have a job where you can be awarded with accolades and monetary compensation.  Linda Hirshman being the bullhorn of the 21st century. 

What I don't understand is why a feminist feels that staying at home is a thankless job.  Maybe it's because they never take the time to thank their husbands for the work they do and the contributions they bring into the home.  Why should you thank him if he doesn't thank you is a rather pitiful excuse. 

While pondering it all several thoughts came to me:

~ Could it be that feminists who look to the past at a nation of stay-at-home moms were looking to the wrong moms?  The stereotype of these women is that they sit around all day surrounded by snot nosed children, scrubbing floors and have noone to talk too.  They don't get to use their intelligence and creativity.  When the man of the house finally comes home all she can do is nag him about what he hasn't done.  That is an unfullfilling life.  Even God would agree.  These women aren't living out the great commission, even in their own homes! 

~ While there were (and are) women like that, there were (and are) thousands of women who took care of their homes and helped their fellow man.  Tending to sick neighbors, helping each other with daily life, feeding the needy and ministering to the younger women in their community.  All while still taking care of their home and supporting their own husbands first.  It wears me out just thinking about it!  

The difference here is that these women didn't have to leave home everyday in order to do this, and much of what they did had a positive impact on their husbands.  Their allegience was still to the man they crawled into bed with every night.  They weren't looking to make something of themselves, they were selfless.

~ Okay, so the feminsts decided to take their fulfillment into their own hands and the answer they came up with is, "Get a job."  So instead of being a supportive wife to the man who is supposed to be your best friend and the love of your life, you go out and support some other man.  You help that man succeed.  That's all it boils down too. 

~ It's interesting that many of the professional working women I have met introduce themselves as so-and-so who works for ABC.  They say this with great pride and somehow I am supposed to be impressed.  If their husband happens to be with them, they introduce him by saying, "This is my husband, so-and-so, and he works for XYZ."  The emphasis on where the man works, not on the man himself.  In both instances the woman feels that the  important part of her message is where they work.  Not who they are as a person, or that they as just a person has any value. 

~ It's no wonder so many men have affairs with their secretaries. (or whatever other position a woman may hold that supports that man.)  A man wants to be supported and if he isn't getting it at home, be it a wife who has given her full support to her boss, or a wife that holds back her support because she's an ungrateful wretch, a man will look for support somewhere else.  Naturally that would fall to the woman who is already giving it to him in the workplace.  (Note: I am not saying that is why all men have affairs, nor am I saying that it is excusable.  I am saying it's a logical conclusion as to why some do.)

~ Could it just be, that is another reason why so many men are turning to other men for..um..companionship?  If the best support they receive is from another man, well, it would make sense. 

While I'm not involved in a lot of outside activities in my life at the moment, it doesn't mean that I'm sitting here turning stale. 

I have creative outlets.  Blogging is one of them. (and I have a bone to pick with feminists on their thoughts about that at another time.) I also teach my children at home and believe me if you want a child to be excited about learning you're going to need to be creative! 

As for my intelligence, I use it to help make my husband successful.  It's my intelligence that keeps the budget so that my husband  has one less thing to worry about.  It's my intelligence that keeps me one step ahead of my children.  It's my intelligence that causes me to  see the fallacy that feminists spread.