Well life has taken an expected turn in our house. I have offically ruined my 14ds life. I wanted to say to him "Well I guess I am doing something right" but, I did not. I snapped at him. Then I joked around with him and things were smooth again. That is until I do something else to ruin his life.
I knew this day would come but, I am not ready for it. I told my husband one of us is not going to survive the teenage years. I have considered bording school or military school but, only briefly.  Seriously I am not ready for him to pull away from me. I talked to a friend yesterday at the Y who said that her son (who is almost 20) is just now coming back to her.  Even on the worse days that we have (and there seem to be more and more lately) I enjoy him and being around him and am so thankful for the time we have together every day. Growing up is hard not only on the kids but also on the parents.
My DD gets her brace tomorrow. She was suppose to get it on Monday but, they called and said it had not come in. She has been in a mood since she found out that we had to wait a few more days. I don't think she was upset she didn't get it yesterday but, we had been planning on this day for 2 weeks. She just really had her mind set that she was getting it. You know how it is.
Well spring break was last week. We usually do not take one but, this year we did (we all needed it) but, what do you know it was cold and snowy all week. Bummer! We still had fun. But yesterday was not a good day. My youngest is not good when you mess up his routine. Today was better. I need some suggestion with him. He just hates school. Every aspect of it. He is dyslexic and has a really hard time with most things. I have really adapted his work so we are just working for short chunks of time. But now I am hearing "I am stupid because I can't read" and he gets really upset about it. I am trying to get the Love and Logic book for kids with ADHD. I am praying about it all the time but, it is such a tough situation. I went thru the same thing with my oldest son but, that doesn't make it any eaiser.
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• Mar. 28, 2006 - Untitled Comment
With him feeling the way he does, right now academics are not "important" (unless it comes from him and him initiating it). It's vital that he's not given any more reasons (if only in his mind) to think that he's "stupid" or not capable. I'm sure you tell him he's not when he says such a thing but be sure to give him examples of how he's not. Remind him of all he has done, things you know he'll feel good about himself for. If there's something in particular he can do that maybe the other kids can't or don't be sure to remind him of it! And be sure to allay any winding thoughts he may have toward the idea that all of this doesn't mean you don't *expect* much from him because you believe what he does, that he's stupid or not able. Be constant in letting him know you do *expect* things from him because you know he's capable it's just that you're patient in waiting for some things (like reading) and he should be too.
Do let him know that at his age lots of kids, many, most even still are not proficient readers. Not that it's a standard I personally buy into, but heck, even public schools don't expect children to be reading "well" before 4th grade age. So in that regard he's not so different from children his age and even older. The point being he's not "behind" everyone... he's right where *he* needs to be for him! (I'm feeling mother-hennish... I don't want him feeling so low on himself!)
I don't know a great deal about dyslexia or ADHD to be able to suggest anything in particular to try, I wish I did.
It's a lot for a little boy to wrestle with, ADHD complications as well as dyslexia, poor little guy. And I know it must be equally draining for you. You'll both be in my prayers - for calm and guidance, for progress and success.