This is a question I have asked myself several times lately.  It is also something that my husband and I have discussed.  We are doing a series in Sunday School called I Marriage.  It talks about throwing out the expectations you have of your spouse and just loving them because Christ loves us.  Not to expect anything just accept them where they are.  Well that seems to be the easy thing for me to do.  The problem is letting go of all the expectations I have of myself.  I have set the bar so high I feel like I am working myself to exhaustion just trying to keep up with it.  For instance dinner.  I have always fixed dinner, not just sandwiches or snacky food.  Well now when I say we are going to have grilled cheese and canned soup for dinner my family feels like I have cheated them some how. 

So how do I change this?  How do I tell myself it is okay to have sandwiches for dinner or it is okay to sit down and spend time with my husband when the dishes aren't done. 

For a long time I thought this was a problem that only I have but, after telling my thoughts to a friend she said she has the same problem.  And she made me realize that this problem was affecting my realiationship with my husband and my kids. 

I know this is something I need to pray about and ask God to reveal to me how to make small changes that will not throw my family into a tailspin.

I think as Moms we are so hard on ourselves.  I tell my kids all the time that I only expect them to do their best and not to be perfect but, I am not sure that I have given myself that pep-talk lately.

Happy Homeschooling

Sarah