How often do you have to remind yourself what’s most important and what’s secondary?  If you’re like me, it’s often.  It’s so easy to lose track of our true purpose in life and get sidetracked on the details of academics. 

It’s only week two, and I’m already feeling anxious about Rachel’s pace in math and science.  I’d like to work according to plan, but it is seeming clear to me that there is some sort of learning disability going on here.  She learns concepts and can work problems, but scores poorly on homework and tests because she gets lost midway – for no apparent reason.  It’s so strange.  It’s like the knowledge phases in and out.  I’m beginning to think that she won’t be an independent learner for a while, so I’ll have to continue to read chapters to her and help her on her assignments.  When I allow her the opportunity to work independently, she’s lost.  We end up having to go through it together anyway.  Otherwise, it’s useless.  This can be stressful and frustrating when you’re trying to accomplish so much in a day… and in a school year. 

THEN, I remembered something.  None of this will get her to heaven.  Isn’t loving God and loving others the main purpose in life?  Shouldn’t this be my main focus in parenting?  So, why am I spending so much of our time and energy on subjects she struggles with, and then leaving little/no time each day for her to grow spiritually and pursue things that interest her (God-given talents)?  Does it really matter in the end?  Even if she chooses to go to college, would the college even CARE what she took in high school?  I think not.  I teach at a college, and advise students on occasion, so I know.  Won’t the college be more interested in her ACT/SAT scores and her experience…in her passions?  Absolutely. 

So now… I’m reminded of what’s important.  I’m reminded to love and serve.

 “For you have been called to live in freedom – not freedom to satisfy your sinful nature, but freedom to serve one another in love.”  Galatians 5:13

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Posted by mijubrifarms

You said "I’d like to work according to plan, but it is seeming clear to me that there is some sort of learning disability going on here"

(1) Work according to G-d's plan and not your lesson plan ... you've got than one figured out

(2) There might be a learning disability. I wish I could hop on a plane and bring my Chrysanthemum with me. She's 17 and can barely understand her textbooks....which is why I don't use very many. We have, however, found the most awesome Algebra & Geometry program. But, unless it goes into her the way she understands, and can get it out the way she expresses things, it's pretty much a waste of time, energy, and tears. Hang in there with Rachel. Just water her and nurture her and she will bloom.
Julie

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Posted by floridasunsets

Amen! I have to do the same thing at time: step back and remember what we're REALLY doing here. Thanks for the pep talk!
Betty
Galatians 6:9

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