Apr. 23, 2008 - Pregnancy Dream
Yesterday my boys had hair cuts from my niece who is expecting her first child. She's going to be a sweet momma. She has already "planned" how many children she wants. I tried to explain the regret I feel almost daily for having had my tubes tied after having Julia. I remember a lady trying to warn me that I may have regret. I thought, "but you just don't understand, I came from a family of four, my husband came from a family of four, it's just 'reasonable' that I only have four."
My niece is also from a family of four and she says that's her limit. I pray that over the years she will be strong enough to rely on God to guide her.
When I was making the decision to have my tubes tied I acted like a child with her fingers in her ears, closing her eyes, and humming. I didn't want to ask God if this was the right decision. I was afraid of His answer. I just wanted to get it over with. Looking back, I see how foolish I was. I have rejected God's opportunity to bless me more in this area.
Last night I dreamed that I was pregnant. I was so excited that God had healed my body in spite of my disobedience. I know that if He chooses this can happen. Guess we'll just have to wait and see.
***I know there are many differing views on this subject. Please understand that my point is to go to God. What does He say is right for your family and your situation?
Corey
Comments
Apr. 23, 2008 - <em>Untitled Comment</em>
Posted by Kinley
I had my tubes tied after the birth of my son. He is 5 now, I am 43 and my oldest is 16,(Julia, too) . I for awhile regretted it, but then my health slipped a little and $$ problems etc. I knew it was the right thing, what I had done, however. I made the decision w/o consulting God, but he still worked it all out and he will for you too whatever he decides. I loved being pregnant and I missed that a lot, however. Two years ago, I had to have a Hysterectomy since then I have not had one feeling of regret over anything.I had asked for God's forgivness and I believe he took the regret away for me. What I am trying to say is, no matter what it will all work out for the best. Talking to God now and He will still use anything for His glory.
Kristy
Edited by Kinley on Apr. 23, 2008 at 5:48 PM
Apr. 23, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by PlainJane
God knows your heart Corey and you have taken it to Him, He is faithful in whatever the outcome.
I would have loved to have lots more children, but I didn't get married until I was 34, had difficult pregnancies, and the will of man (my man) have kept me from more children. I'm now 49 and just trust in the Lord to be content. It can sometimes be hard, especially as homeschoolers where often large quivers is a badge of honor and small quivers are looked upon as dishonorable, but I take courage in examples from the Bible, such as Abraham, who was childless until he was very old (not that I'm wanting to have babies any more at my age) and then only had 1 son (2 when you count Ishmael) and God made a mighty nation(s). Yes, children are a blessing, but God can be blessed by a family of any size. ((hugs))
Apr. 24, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by MayTheyBeMightyMen
I read your post and it became a springboard for mine today. *lol* I always wondered if God might do that for a woman...should be interesting to see...
Apr. 25, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by kimalita
Sweet Corey the dear Lord knows your heart. There is no condemnation for those in Christ. Amen? Oh what a joyful day should the Lord open your womb once again.......
I'm right there with you on this subject. It is such a touchy subject as you metioned, sad it is, but it is what it is in our world. Even in the Christian world it is. That is one of the many things we've tried to teach our 5 children, its not right or wrong to have 2 or 10 children -- as long as you have sought Jesus and asked what HIS BEST is for your family. They ask that b/c they have seen the stares, heard the comments ( even by pastors and christian friends ) about our 'large' family. We prayed after each one, Jesus what do you want.......we are so blessed that we listened and heeded His voice. I have testimony after testimony with regards to this; and I know that I know I can stand before Him one day and have no regrets on bringing forth His warriors through our family.
I sure pray that the Lord in all His graciousness would send a wee one your way........you wouldnt be the first and you wouldnt be the last for this to have happen b/c that is the kinda God we serve, One that will do things to bring Glory to His Name.
Oh there i go writing a book.......oops
Apr. 29, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Anonymous
I am currently going through something similiar in regards to having another child. I am feeling the desire for another. I think this would be the last- it would be our third, and I am already 33 years old. We did get pregnant last year, but it ended in a miscarriage in January. We have been hoping to get pregnant again through this past year, but nothing has happened. I have started to realize that maybe God doesn't want us to have anymore. He knows what is best. You helped me to look at it in that light, thank you!
Amy
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