Raising Four Young Ladies For Christ

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How do you cope with never getting a break..??

Okay...to all out there. First of all, don't get the wrong impression. I LOVE homeschooling, it is the best decision that we have ever made. Unless God asked us to give it up, we plan on doing it till all our kiddos have graduated.

However......sigh..

How do you moms out there cope without getting a break? Or do you get breaks? Do you get time out to yourself or to go hang out with a friend? I don't mean staying up late to do the laundry or going grocery shopping childless, cause that is STILL work!

Am I the only one out there who wouldn't mind getting a break every now and then?

I have heard so many times "Moms should always take time out for themselves so they don't burn out." Not even talking about homschooling moms who literally have their kiddos 24/7, that is just your everyday ordinary mom.

When does "she" do it? When do you do it? What do you do? Do you get away once a week, a month, a year?

Recently a question went out to one of my Yahoo! groups asking what we did with the last hour that we had to ourselves. I seriously can't remember having a hour to myself in the last 6 months to a year.

The past few days have worn on me. Don't get me wrong. I have great kids! I have a great husband. However, he works all day and then comes home to do college. The kids are great, respectful, loving and sweet. However, even the greatest kids can wear on your nerves when you haven't had a moment to yourself.

Am I making sense or am I just sounding like a whining mother that needs to grow up? Not sure that I want anyone to answer that!

We live right next door to the church so this afternoon I went over there with the excuse of getting something done. (Which I did, BTW!) However, as soon as I walked in the sanctuary of that quiet building, I bust out crying. I am SO tired and my nerves are shot. Thankfully after a few minutes of sobbing, I felt much better. circumstances have certainly not changed, but there was a peace there that wasn't before.

So I just want to know if I am the only one that feels clastraphobic sometimes? Am I the only one that wonders when she will get a hour to herself again.

Seriously....the only thing I would LOVE to have for Mother's Day is a few hours to myself. I don't need chocolate, flowers or anything else. Just time. Time to regrow my nerves. Time to rejuvenate my spirit and time to just call my OWN.

If you got this far in my whining blog, you are awesome!

Posted: 3:14 PM, Wednesday, May 9, 2007

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My Break

Ok, I don't really get breaks much either. As a single mom, I don't have a hubby to leave them with and can't afford to leave them with babysitters unless I have to. I kind of feel like my schooling is my break. You can tell when we haven't had as many prenatals or births to go to. I get a bit cranky with my boys. When I do get an odd hour to myself alone, I don't know what to do with it. Other than cleaning. If I get longer than that and my chores are done, I start wandering around the house wondering why it is so quiet.

Posted by midwifemom at 7:13 PM, Wednesday, May 9, 2007

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Posted by midwifemom at 7:17 PM, Wednesday, May 9, 2007

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I understand how you feel. I did that one Saturday evening. I hid in my backyard in the dark and took a couple deep breaths and started bawling like a baby and praying. My hubby wanted to know where I was and I told him I wouldnt tell so I could have quiet place to go that no one knew about.
Posted by Anonymous at 4:40 PM, Wednesday, May 23, 2007	Link

Breaks??? What are those!

I know this post was a while ago and I don't know if you read back, but reading this was refreshing for me! "WHAT" you ask? Well, I had 4 kids in 4 years (you know me ;-) and I home schooled my oldest this year in kindergarten and my second in preschool. It was a year early for them but they were ready and wanted to. They did well and my kids are good kids, but like you, I can't remember the last time I had time alone. My husband works about 50-60 hours a week at a regular job, runs his own company on the side and then to top it all off has suffered a lot of illness the last 2 years. As a result, when he is not at work or in the office working, he is in bed sick. It is important for me that my kids get church, so even though I had to go often alone with 4 kids 4 and under (believe me I didn't get much out of the services!) I still went. My parents were the only real friends I had around here because I have not worked since moving here a couple years ago and there were no other mothers or couples our age in our small church. My parents were transferred away 2 years ago so I have been pretty much alone. We just had a 24hour Walmart open up close to us a couple months ago. Since that time I have gone to the store after my hubby was home and my kids asleep (at 11PM or later) to get milk several times. I found myself just wondering up and down the isles taking my sweet time. Once, at about 1AM (I have been there as late as 3AM) one of the clerks came and asked me if I needed help finding something. I laughed and told her that even though I didn't have the money to buy anything it was SOO nice to be without any kids AND out of the house that I was using this time to unwind and get my sanity back! They were the only place open that late. The Lord has helped me to deal and I am doing much better now. But I really just wrote all this to say that it IS refreshing to know that I am not alone in feeling this way sometimes. I wouldn't trade my life/kids/OR hubby for anything. I really am blessed and my mom (who had 5 kids in 5 years) tells me that it gets better after I am out of the baby stage. So maybe there is hope for you there as well :-)

Posted by Jillian at 10:37 PM, Monday, July 23, 2007

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