I am surprised that anyone can understand anything that I am trying to say.  I reread what I have written after I have posted it and I have to remember what I was meaning to say there.  I try to write when I think I will be the least interrupted but obviously I don't wait long enough.  I am not a late night person nor an early morning person.  So it is hard for me to find the perfect time to do the things I want to do.  I do appreciate the kind responses and hope that you can understand what I am trying to say. 

I am working on becoming organized in all areas of my life.  My serious problem is there is no time for me to work on it.  I was sick this weekend and there was no time for me to be sick.  I don't mean to sound like I am feeling sorry for myself, I don't.  I am sure there are people who are struggling with the same thing.  I am excited to say that I am hoping that in the next few weeks I will get more done b/c my mom is coming to visit.  Granted it is only for a week but hopefully I can get some things in order. 

One other thing.  How much can we say or do we interfere in our parents relationship with each other?  I struggle with this.  My parents haven't done well for such a long time.  Yet, what to do?  I am truly surprised they are still married.  As a child I wished all the time for them to divorce.  There was so much anger in my home.  I was scared all the time.  Scared b/c they fought and scared when their anger was turned on myself or my brother.  There has been a lot of pain between the two.  Every counselor they have ever seen (all christian and in 2 different states) have told my mother she should leave my dad.  She didn't.  Yet, she doesn't move forward.  I don't think she can forgive him.  She starts to and then somthing seems to hold her back.  I did speak to her once about it and just said that you decided to stay b/c you took your vows seriously so take your vows seriously.  It seemed to be a good conversation.  But nothing changed.  They are strangers living together.  They seem to do things together but it is very ...estranged still.  She becomes very angry and says things that are very hurtful to him.  It isn't all her but I just wonder what to do sometimes.  I pray for them all the time.  Perhaps they should divorce.  Yet, even knowing all that I do and their history it saddens me.  I wish there was someway that it could work out.  Perhaps it still can.  I don't know.  I struggle with wether it is my place or right to say anything at all to them.  My dad invites discussion about it but I still struggle with it.  There are some things I don't want to know and there are some things I feel I need to say.  It is hard.  Even with the way things were growing up I love them both.  I hate to see them hurting. 

SW

Posted by Bahamahomeschooler

How are you feeling? I think you need the break not me.

So glad your mom is coming you need the help to get the time to get everything straight. I would suggest for your mom to read the book Created to be His Helpmeet. by Debi Pearl. She is right in not ending in divorce, but she needs to work on make it a marriage that God wants it to be. Very Hard work!!!! Will call soon. HJK

Posted by jannaod

My Dh's parents were estranged in the same house--separate bedrooms and everything. I am relieved that in the 8 years since he has passed, MIL can remember and focus on the good times. I hope your parents can be reconciled and make some good memories for all of you.