• Jan. 12, 2007
The Latest Studies........ugh
I read this thing a magazine that said "The latest studies show that a teen's brain is not devoloped enough to understand the consequences of his actions until he's well into his 20s." That's the complete quote. I'm sorry, but that, to me, just seems like some excuse a parent would use for explaining their kid's bad behavior. Every teen has a conscience, and unless they've completely deadened it, they know something is wrong before they do it! Drinking, drugs, sleeping around, dressing in a revealing way, "fun" pranks, I don't care what it is. A teen must get even the slightest "This is wrong!!" message.
So many adults excuse their teen's behavior because "He/she's just a teenager. Let them have their fun." Yet in reality, they're doing their kid no favor. They're harming their child by letting them go to the parties, encouraging dating at a young age, and buying the clothes, posters and CDs. But I think they harm them the most by not being involved in their child's life, by not asking how their day went, how their friends are doing, etc. Especially if they don't homeschool, and aren't around their kids alot.
I'm not saying tha being homeschooled means a guy or girl is an innocent. I was, (let me stress was), friends with a girl who was homeschooled. She was just a 11-12 year old kid. But she started to change, her clothes became very revealing, she listened to trashy music, she had a subsripction to Teen People, for crying out loud. She was twelve! She stopped talking to me. (I guess because we no longer had much in common; I mean I don't like Ashlee Simpson, can't stand her sister, and I think Mean Girls was a stupid and trashy movie.) Her sudden lack of communication was a blessing; it got me out of a bad situation. I don't like to admit it, but I wasn't really that satisfied with being me anymore. I wanted to be a size two, wear high heels, a full face of makeup, and have my headphones on my ears most of the time. I think my self confidence started to twindle. Bad company!!!
But, like I said, her family stopped talking to mine, (There's more reasons, but I won't mention them.), and they kinda had a blow up with everyone in the HS group. My self confidence is way higher now and I'm not afraid to be me. I realize that having my headphones all the time will make me deaf by age 30, and although I still wouldn't mind being a size two for a little while, I've become a stronger person, and am less afraid to speak up.
I got off track, I know. Sorry. *grin* I guess what I'm saying is that it's my feeling that parents should be very involved in their kids' lives, otherwise, there's a lot of room for that kid to mess up and have no guidance.
And that thing about teens' brains? Yeah, I know we're still growing, but I fully understand that if I drink, do drugs, sleep with someone, dress in a bad way, anything like that, there will be consequences!!!!
XOXOXO,
Becca
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• Jan. 12, 2007
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Posted by learnmylingo
I think the quote has some truth to it... but not because it's not possible for our minds to be "developed"... but I think for some teens that is almost impossible. Teens who's parents are trying too hard to make their life easy. I don't wanna say it, but I'm talking about kids who are "spoiled"... I know a boy who's sixteen and he doesn't fully understand that all of his action have consequences. He's a bright boy, sure... but he's the baby of the family and his parents give him everything on a silver platter. He worked with me one summer and couldn't seem to comprehend why his pay-checks were cut because he was slacking. There's other stuff like that to that I see all the time. I don't think he's going to be able to comprehend the consequences of his action until he graduates college and is all alone...
But to say that all teens are like that? That's just plain stupid. Sheesh...
Anyhow, I saw you added me to your friends list, so I added you back.
-Erin
• Jan. 12, 2007
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Posted by krisjacob
Actually I heard the exact opisite from that. I heard that teens spend more time then adults thinking about the pros and cons. Yeah, it's probebly just some parent...
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