An Excellent Point
Jul. 16, 2005 at 11:53 AM
Homeschooling
There were a few reasons why I shared my story this past week From Honeymoons to Happy Homes. Mainly, I wanted to finally write it down so that my children will have a little bit of history about our marriage. But I also wanted to share so that others who may read it would be encouraged to seek the Lord and desire grow in their marriages. I was glad when I visited BlestwithSons and read that she was encouraged not to copy what I had done but to seek the Lord herself. Here's what she said,
I read Spunky's adventure in submission, and the treasures she has reaped from it, and I think, "Hey! I want that! I'll do what Spunky did! I'll email my husband in Iraq and tell him he needs to make the decisions about how we are going to homeschool." But there's one small problem. Okay, one big problem. I'm not Spunky. And God has not told me to do what Spunky did. I'm not saying He won't eventually tell me to do what she did...But I haven't actually asked Him yet. And is my motivation in wanting to copy Spunky truly the desire to be submissive? Or is it just female trickery in trying to force my husband to lead the way I think he should lead? And can I instantly assume that because I read something on a blog which resonated with me that it is conviction from the Lord that I am to do the same thing? Maybe. Maybe not.
I think the resonance definitely shows me that I have room to grow in the submission department... Lots of room, actually. I need to take what I've learned from Spunky, and instead of copying her actions, copy her attitude. I need to go to my Father in prayer and ask Him to show me what he would have me do.
Amen, that is exactly the response we should all have when we read something encouraging that the Lord has done in the lives of others. Thanks for making the point.
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posted by 3FoldChord on Jul. 16, 2005 at 12:33 PM
I actually thought of her when I was thinkng of your posts and about how things are with my husband. He isn't in Iraq, but he does work lots and is away lots and has TDYs lots.....('lots' is almost as cool a word as 'stuff', LOL) and I was thinking that you have a wonderful Godly marriage and relationship with your husband, but that it wouldn't work for us becuase I was thinking your hubby worked from home and was there and how when the husband is gone lots things need to be worked differently and I wondered about Blestwithsons and thought that she probably has to make a lot of decisions without much input from her husband. If my husband spent a lot of time with decisions like school and doctors and kids and what I do with my time, he'd not be able to do his best and give his best to things that are a much higher priority in his life right now. It made me realize that not all Godly wives and not all Godly marriages use the same exact blueprint.
posted by spunkyhomeschool on Jul. 16, 2005 at 2:56 PM
Our relationship was not right back then. My husband did not work from home when this all occurred. In fact he was working at a very demanding job. He has only worked from home the last 3 years. He wasn't always there.
But you are right. This is not a blue print for what works in every marriage. It is a testimony of God's faithfulness when we obey HIM and that is all. What works, is humbly seeking the Lord, repenting when there is sin, first from the Lord and then from those we have wronged and then taking the necessary action to repair any of the affects.
Spunky