I have been studying the Victorian era in an attempt to decorate my home. As I love history and antiques I just think it will fit me. Anyway I was reading about Queen Victoria for whom the era was named when I came upon an interesting fact. After her beloved husband passed away she continued to mourn for him for 40 years. She had the linens on his bed changed daily. She laid out his clothes in the morning and his shaving items along with a cup of warm water to shave with.

In this day and age we are told to get over things so quickly. You have 3 days of leave from work for a funeral if you are lucky and you can really only take these days if it is an immediate family member. I am very close to many people in my life who are not family but I would be devastated if something happened to them.

My sister called my grandmother the other day and she had changed the message on her answering machine. It no longer says you have reached Gary and Sue. It took her almost 2 months to change it. It made me sad to hear it. I liked it before. I cried when I had heard she changed it. I only hope she changed it of her own volition and not because someone told her she needed too. I know that she is sad and lonely, but I hope she will take time to grieve. I hope she won't rush anything just because someone tells her that she needs to snap out of it.

Tristan's Pappy lost his wife when Tristan was 4(he is almost 10 now) and even though it has been years ,every time I go to his home I notice that her purse is still in the same place. I am actually happy to see it still there.

I just think that we should give ourselves time to feel and grieve. I personally think the reason depression and anxiety are so prevalent in our day and time is because we don't allow ourselves to feel. What are we afraid of.