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About me.....
Nov. 21, 2007
The holidays are fast approaching...let the war begin...
| amongst my so called family that is. I have two sisters, my grannie, and my mother in the family. I am very close with my youngest sis...always have been. The middle sis is much like my mother in temperament and actions. We rarely speak. Grannie doesn't know who any of us are anymore. Mother is off her rocker....one day she'll cuss you enough to make a sailor blush and the next she thinks you're supposed to think she hung the moon. And you know what if they want to be that way then let them. I frankly just don't care .....BUT leave me out of it! My middle sis and I started trying to get along this past year. We have dd's that are a year apart and they were chatting up a storm...until my dd came to me and told me that her cuz was having boys over when sis wasn't home and stuff was happening. Now given that my niece was14yo I felt like sis should know. Long story short is they're saying the boy raped her. Sis hasn't spoken to me in months.....very short with me when I tried to talk to her. Then when things were rough here this past spring I just really had the energy to barely get thru my day........there was no room for handling anyone with kid gloves. Then when she brought Grannie down here and dropped her off she was downright rude (wouldn't even sit down!)and later in the week blasted me over the phone and by email. It was all about how I'm treating her differently because of what went on with her dd. You know that has nothing to do with it. I didn't talk to her this summer yeah....but I didn't call my younger sis either....she called me. Excuse me I was dealing with my own set of problems! Younger sis and I are close enough that she knew things were bad. And I've mentioned 3x to middle sis in email and phone calls that it was a rough summer and that dh had to change jobs.....she has yet to ask if things are ok or even acknowledge that she heard/read what I said. Anyway I got an email from middle sis yesterday saying "hello, am I to assume no one wants to get together for Christmas?..just wanted to check." Now I've not said one word about Christmas......(to be completely honest I haven't even thought that far ahead. I'm busy trying to make some gifts and we're still not sure when dh is off)....not a "hey are we getting together or anything" just automatically start with being negative. But ya know what? They're NOT spoiling my holidays! if they want to sit there and feel sorry for themselves (the old I'm so mistreated attitude) then they can. Frankly I'm going to be happy and thankful. That is the choice I make. I've got a lot to be thankful and happy about. Dh and I survived a blow that very well could have destroyed us...it hasn't. We've pulled thru and are moving forward. I still have my best friend and he's happier and more relaxed than I've seen him in years. we have 6 healthy, happy, wonderful children. We have a roof over our heads, food in the freezer, and enough $ to pay the bills. We have a wonderful church family that has been there so many times for us. So I'm being happy and thankful.....what they choose to be is their own decision of their own making! So this year we're going to eat our turkey dinner, make the majority of our Christmas gifts and enjoy life. if they want to join us with happy attitudes they're welcome but we're NOT doing stress and gloom this year! |
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