I posted this over on Scott Sommerville's blogpage, where he requested input on "What Wives Wish Their Husband's Knew About Homeschooling".  Many times I am discontent with my husband's slow but steady ways, but when I really stopped today to evaluate what he is doing RIGHT, there were so many things.  I am very blessed.

My dh has been very supportive of homeschooling all along, attending convention with me every year, partipating in curriculum choices with me, and giving me a very generous budget to spend on homeschooling materials (considering our small income). He also acts as principal and backs me up on discipline issues. In addition, he pitches in on household tasks that I consider "my job" so that I can devote more of myself to homeschooling my children. I feel guilty about him helping out around the house, but the one thing my husband realizes is that homeschooling children (depending on how many and the method you choose) can be the same as holding a part-time, or maybe even full-time job. One of the most important things my husband does is LISTEN to me. He is a sounding board when I am having a challenge or difficulty with one of the children, or maybe just need to change direction with them. Who else would be as invested in my children's futures as their father? He cares about them and loves them as no one else could. My husband does not consider himself a "book person" who is gifted academically, but he has an excellent grasp on how to support the academic growth of his children. Even if a husband does not consider himself academically gifted, he should share what he does know with his children. My dh will take our children outside after dark and look at the stars and moon with his telescope. He also participated in a Shakespeare reading with us the other night, taking turns narrating with our daughter. This meant so much to me and to our daughter! Hopefully, the trend continues. I wish other homeschooling fathers were as supportive as my husband, but sadly many are not. If I could offer an additional suggestion, it would be that fathers need to realize that just because their wife is not up cooking a meal, or scrubbing the floor, etc., if she is writing lesson plans, previewing books, grading papers, or working on record keeping, she is still working and the work is just as valid and important as the "housework". She can also be more efficient in taking care of the "paperwork" part of homeschooling, if she can have some time alone. So, take the kids to the zoo or on a nature walk, and let your wife have some planning time! For a final suggestion, fathers can be great to have along on field trips. The kids are excited to share experiences with their father, and there are many free or inexpensive choices ranging from family camping trips to local arts festivals. Blessings! Kerri