Sep. 26, 2006 - I made my son cry today!!!!
God has blessed my dh and I with the challenge of a very sensitive little boy. This is really giving my dh fits because he was raised to just buck and accept life. I guess in a way I was too but the compassion I have a mother helps me relate more to my ds. He is a different learner than the rest of my children as well. Unfortunately, this giftedness that he possesses also leads him to be very whiney and cry easily over little things. It's his form of manipulation I think. Well today I hit the end of the mark with it and him.
At one point after all the discipline over the whining and crying was said and done, we ended up in the bathroom to talk again. (Oh, and he's still crying at this point.) I tend to chase rabbits and one of my trails led us down the path to the holidays. I was trying to explain to my ds that from Christmas to my birthday in early February we would celebrate his birthday and welcome our new famiy member. (I had my first baby at 36 weeks and my ds was born at 37. This baby could come at any point.) Well, somehow out of that one statement he took away that we would skip his birthday. I was a little baffled at that point. I explained to him that he is very special to us and that we would never skip his birthday (Oh, I should explain that my due date is the day after his birthday.)
Then I did something I have never done with him. . .and I learned a lot from it. I have told my dh from the moment I held my ds as a baby that God had something special planned for his life. I don't sense the same thing with my other children. Not that God doesn't have a special plan for them. But I truly believe that God is going to use my ds in a big was for the kingdon. My little boy loves Jesus so much. So I finally told him this. He started crying!!!!!! URGH!!!! I couldn't figure it out.
Being ever so baffled over this I finally just asked him WHY he was crying (and I am sure I sounded irritated.) He leaned against my growing tummy and said they were happy tears. My heart fell to pieces. Happy tears!!!! What 5 yod cries happy tears and understands what they are? He's so unique. We are often told at church that he answers questions in the sunday school that most kids have no clue about. He gets comments all the time on the way he prays. He picks stuff up during the sermon that even I miss while I am sitting there (maybe I need to bring a coloroing book. HA!!!) He's just a unique little boy. I have no doubt in my mind that when He accept Christ a year ago that it was true and sincere. The Spirit resides in the heart of that little boy and He's going to take him great places.
I know that I all mom's feel this way at some point or another. My ds doesn't have anything over the next little boy. But he is MY ds. And he's going places. :)
For his mommy time this afternoon he asked if we could do a bible study on being a pastor. He's always talking about being a pastor and I believe he probably will be. So I picked a couple of passages from 1 Timothy to read to him. He asked if tomorrow we could read a Bible story about a pastor in the Bible. Umm. Well, who could we read about? I am telling my dh this story and he's looking at me as if I lost my mind for not immediately remembering one of the most important pastors, PAUL!!!! We'll read about Paul.
And so we will.
I forgot to mention what I learned about my ds. He's just like me!!! He needs, more than anything, to hear words of affirmation spoken to him. I am not a big fan of Christian psychology but I do believe there is some merit to the whole love languages books that are out there. He needs to hear that mom loves him. He needs to hear that mommy affirms his position as a child of God. He needs hear that mommy believes he will do big things. And He needs to hear most of all that God loves him and has big plans for his life. He's going to use my ds.
I won my ds heart this afternoon. And then I filled his little tummy.
Comments
Sep. 27, 2006 - Isn't it amazing....
Posted by what mommies can see in their children!? I have no doubt that God will use your little one in mighty ways. What a tremendous responsibility you have to "train him in the way that he should go".... God bless you both!
-Christine
Edited by youngmommy on Sep. 26, 2006 at 10:44 PM
Sep. 27, 2006 - AWWW!!!
Posted by Aligirl
What a moment for you! That had to just bless you heart! I have a sensitive son also. There are times when it is really hard with all of the whining and crying, but on the other hand, that sensitivity can be a real blessing. It will be awesome to see how God uses your son in the future.
The Lord bless you! And your sweet son!
Ali
