Posted in Commonplace Book
Ineffective Mom's:
- Barks orders
- Yells
- Criticizes everything, even when people have tried their best
- Makes family feel guilty - No matter what they do, its never enough.
- Never happy with how the job is done
- Tasks must be done the Mom's way and no other way. Mom will not even listen to reasonable suggestions
Effective Mom's:
- Makes charts or lists, so the family knows what is expected
- Makes requests in a quiet, gentle, reasonable voice with a smile
- Always praises them for doing a good job or at least for trying
- Shows her family how much she appreciates them for all they do to help her
- Never fixes a job done less than perfectly. Instead, the next time the job is done, she does it with them until they lean to do it right.
Source Living On a Dime
WOW! Did these two types of mom's speak to me. How many times do I bark orders, making everybody feel guilty and criticize their every move, all in the same breath. Yikes! I need to change that and quick, especially the one that says not to fix everything that isn't perfect (soooo FlyLady) but to TRAIN the child (or dh 
). Gosh that is so CM in every aspect. Re-alignments are good.
