Thinking Outloud - It is a constant fight

Thinking Outloud

Nov. 1, 2009

It is a constant fight

How the phone conversation went:

Mom: Hi! How you doing? ~ cheerfully

Me: Good how are you? ~ cheerfully

Mom: Fine. How was last night? (last night being Halloween)

Me: Fine ~ cautious but still cheerful

Mom: Well, what did you do?

Me: Not a lot. I flubbed up the popcorn balls because I read the recipe wrong but the kids still liked it and we watched a movie.

Mom: You didn't go out? (out meaning trick or treating) ~ now she's cautious but cheerful

Me: No, we stayed in. The kids carved their pumpkins, ate flat popcorn balls and watched a sweet Hallmark movie called Loves Abiding Joy - it is a Christian movie.

Mom: And you didn't take the boys out? (out meaning trick or treating) ~ now in a more questioning tone ignoring the Christian movie bit

Me: Well, no mom. We really don't celebrate Halloween.

~ brief silence

Mom: Well, you carved pumpkins didn't you - that is celebrating Halloween isn't it? (carved meaning into Jack o' Lanterns) ~ now sarcastic

Me: well, yes mom, we carved our pumpkins but we basically only took all the seeds out to cook them because I stuff them with a filling and then we ate them... for dinner... stuffed... that is our tradition. ~ polite

Mom: well, then if all your doing is eating pumpkins and then that is no different than celebrating Thanksgiving! ~ judgmental

Me: well then I guess we celebrated Thanksgiving ~ polite trying to be cheery but failing miserably

Mom: and you didn't let the boys put on costumes? (costumes meaning costumes and out trick or treating)

Me: mom these boys put on costumes every day. Just yesterday I had a jester and a knight doing pre-algebra. I'm not sure a day goes by when they don't wear a costume. Mom, they really didn't want to go out ~ trying to be lighthearted and cheerful

Mom: well then I guess you celebrate Thanksgiving

~ long silence and then

Mom: okay well I need to go. goodbye!

Some days it is just hard

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Nov. 3, 2009 - Untitled Comment

Posted by charles0322

You are not alone honey. In our home we only wear dresses and it drives my father nuts. Not to mention we do not have cable (cant afford it and do not like the trash on it plus I want to them to go and do and not sit and watch) which he considers a basic need and everytime I go over to his house he hands me the sales paper.

They have become more understanding and calmer in years. I still have a lot of trouble with my brother. He has become more hostile in recent years with me. I will spare you the language he uses around me. When my eldest was just learning to talk he thought it would be cute to teach her to say G....D.... Yes, you read that right. Then there was the time he was visiting and wanted to spend the night.....no problem except he wanted to bring his current girlfriend. Talk about the blow up! How dare I not allow his unmarried shack up spend the night! He claimed he had the right to live the way he wants! Yes, but not in my house.

Oh and the blow ups about Santa! Ouch.

Sorry to carry on. I know what you are going through. It is harder when you have no support from family. But God sees. Keep up the good work, hon.

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Nov. 3, 2009 - Untitled Comment

Posted by wacque

Thank you for your encouragement. I'm saddened that you have to go through this too but keep your convictions because He is the Way, the Truth and the Light.
Blessings,
Jacque

Edited by wacque on Nov. 3, 2009 at 11:34 PM

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