• Aug. 15, 2006
School delayed - please pray
Well, I had decided to go ahead and start school this week after thinking I would wait until after Labor Day. I have been wishy-washy about it for a few weeks now. Unfortunately the decision was taken out of my hands and we will not be starting school until Labor Day - at least.
My ex-husband was in a horrific traffic accident a week ago this past Sunday. He collided with a tanker truck carrying oil. Both vehicles exploded and the truck driver and my ex-husband were killed. It has been such a mess. Like I said, it has been over a week and the Medical Examiner still has been unable to identify my ex-husband's body (with dental records) because the dental records were sent to the wrong place. We finally got that straightened out today and hopefully the dentist will be in tomorrow and identify the body.
David, my ex-husband, will be buried out of town and many of his friends and business associates won't be able to make the funeral so it has been requested of me to have a memorial for him up here for those who cannot make it to the funeral. I have no objections to that except that I have not even had time to grieve. I have been so busy trying to do what David's mother needs me to do and get in touch with people that need to be told. I lost contact with his grown children years ago and he is the only one who had phone numbers for them. So, it seems that we will have to go to Oklahoma to let them know. (We don't want the police to notify them.) It is really a mess. At one time Daivd was my best friend. We finally made our way back there -pretty much anyway.
I must say that I am really angry with him. A friend of ours and I had been trying to talk him into going to the doctor for these episodes that he was having. He would have mini seizures and then pass out. We think that must be what happened to cause the accident. He just didn't like going to the doctor. I am thankful that he almost certainly was dead before he knew what hit him. I am just so sorry that another person died as well and another family is grieving the loss of a loved one.
I'm also a little perturbed with him about my current curriculum situation. He was going to buy part of the curriculum for my son. I guess he decided he didn't want to. He could have just told me. --I'm sorry if that was offensive to anyone. I just have a wierd sense of humor. Trust me. David would be laughing.
My son, who is 8 years old, has told me that he does not want to deal with David's death now. I told him that was fine and he didn't have to deal with it until he is ready. In a few weeks he will mention something about it and then nothing for a while and mention a liitle bit more. He just deals with a little bit at a time and does okay with it. My only fear is that David's mother will try to force the issue and I will have to stop her and possibly hurt her feelings. But, if it takes hurting her feelings for my son not to be hurt that is what I will have to do.
Well, I think I will wrap this up now. Thanks for letting me unload. Now I've got to see if I can find some Math and Reading Curriculum deals since I just cannot afford it. Wish me luck on that. Thanks again for "listening." Also, please pray for David's family (myself and my son included). This is really a tough time for us all.
Comments
• Aug. 15, 2006
I'm so sorry
Posted by Debi
What a lot to deal with! I'm so sorry for your loss and I will remember you and your son in my prayers.
