Dec. 4, 2006 - JUST A MOM?
I found this little story in my email box this afternoon and
wanted to share it:
JUST A MOM?
A woman, renewing her driver's license at the County Clerk 's office was asked by the woman recorder to state her occupation.
She hesitated, uncertain how to classify herself.
"What I mean is," explained the recorder, "do
you have a job or are you
just a......?"
"Of course I have a job," snapped the woman, “I'm a Mom."
"We don't list 'Mom' as an occupation, 'housewife' covers it," said
the recorder emphatically.
I forgot all about her story until one day I found myself in
the same situation, this time at our own Town Hall.
The Clerk was obviously a career woman, poised, efficient and possessed of a high sounding title like, "Official Interrogator" or "Town Registrar."
"What is your occupation?" she probed.
What made me say it? I do not know. The words simply popped out. "I'm a Research Associate in the field of Child Development and Human Relations."
The clerk paused, ball-point pen frozen in midair and looked up as though she
had not heard right.
I repeated the title slowly emphasizing the most significant words. Then I
stared with wonder as my pronouncement was written, in bold, black ink on the
official questionnaire.
"Might I ask," said the clerk with new interest,
"just what you do in
your field?”
Coolly, without any trace of fluster in my voice, I heard
myself reply, "I have a continuing program of research, (what mother
doesn't) in the laboratory and in the field, (normally I would have said indoors
and out). I'm working for my Masters, (first the Lord and then the whole
family) and already have four credits (all daughters). Of course, the job is
one of the most demanding in the humanities, (any mother care to disagree?) and
I often work 14 hours a day, (24 is more like it). But the job is more
challenging than most run-of-the-mill careers and the rewards are more of a satisfaction
rather than just monetary."
There was an increasing note of respect in the clerk's voice as she completed
the form, stood up and personally ushered me to the door.
As I drove into our driveway, buoyed up by my glamorous new career, I
was greeted by my lab assistants -- ages 13, 7, and 3. Upstairs I could hear
our new experimental model, (a 6 month old baby) in the child development
program, testing out a new vocal pattern.
I felt I had scored a beat on bureaucracy! And I had gone on the official
records as someone more distinguished and indispensable to mankind than
"just another Mom."
Motherhood! What a glorious career! Especially when there's
a title on the door.
Does this make grandmothers "Senior Research Associates in the field of
Child Development and Human Relations" and great grandmothers "Executive
Senior Research Associates"? I think so!!! I also think it makes Aunts "Associate
Research Assistants".
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